cockapoo, goldendoodle or labradoodle for New England family with special needs?

[NewEnglandSara]

Hi All,

I am trying to tease out the differences between cockapoos, goldendoodles and labradoodles. I am usually a great researcher, but the information out there is daunting! I am also trying to determine if we should look for a puppy or a slightly older dog. I would welcome any insight. Here is our situation:

Family of five: mom, dad, teen girl, teen boy on the autism spectrum and 2nd grade boy. My husband grew up with dogs, but I have no experience with pets. My older two kids have some experience with pets at their dad's house, and my younger son has lots of good friends with dogs. My husband and the boys are very playful. I am a good caretaker, but I am not as fun as the boys. :-) The dog will be with me during the school-day (and sometimes through dinner) and then with the kids and my husband too some afternoons and all nights/weekends. I work mostly from home, but I will be able to take the dog for walks during the day.

I am looking for a dog that:

1) Won't bother our allergies too much. We have some cat and dander allergies in the family, but we have been okay around poodle mixes. I have been around cockapoos and labradoodles.....not a goldendoodle yet.

2) Will be kind and affectionate with my son on the autism spectrum, even if my younger son is more affectionate and even-keel. My son with ASD LOVES golden retrievers, so my heart strings are tugging a bit for a goldendoodle. On the flip side, I don't want to make my decision for that reason alone.

3) Will be okay with "just me" at home for much of the day, even though I will make every effort to bring him or her out to dog parks and playdates with friends who have dogs.

I am open to a slightly older puppy or "young adult" dog, but those are hard to come by. I am also struggling to find recommended breeders in New England that have any upcoming availability.

Thanks in advance for your suggestions!

Sara

[Nancy, Ned, Clancy, and Charlie]

Do not be afraid to look at pure breed poodles either.  You have the advantage of a for-sure non-shedding dog which might be easier on your husband's allergies.  If you want a more doodle-like look, you can groom poodles that way.  My son recently got a poodle puppy from a respected breeder who helped them select the dog with the best temperament for an active family with four young children.  So far, it is working out beautifully and I am in love with that puppy.