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Drama has caused me to choose a new necklace for my wedding dress..need help!

So the day I had picked out my wedding dress friend Jennifer and my Godmother came to try them on with me (since my mom and sister and grandmother live in Bermuda) and I found the perfect gown after trying on only 4 dresses (completely the opposite of what I had gone in for). When I was prancing around the store in the dress, my Godmother saw a necklace in their accessory case that might look nice with the gown so I tried it on and we ALLLLL loved it! Then when we asked how much it was ($400), I decided that was too scary of a price, but my Godmother insisted on buying it, saying it was her gift to me for my wedding day since it looked so perfect with the gown (this was the beginning of March 2011). In August (after my mom had been ill a couple months and stresses were high already, my Godmother decided to "have a stroke" as my mother really believes and go crazy for no reason at all. One day behind my back while she was talking to me about normal stuff, she called my fiance and told him I was selfish and told him all of these insane lies that I would never say or do (such as call her fat and tell her what she was allowed to eat and say awful things to her boyfriend [whom I like and got along with great)...NEVER in a million years would I dream of saying something like that to ANYONE, not even the nasty girls that bullied me in middle school and high school! I was going to ignore it thinking maybe she was just stressed about my mom being ill too and needed to vent and take something out on me because I was close, but then she started posting things on her facebook wall about me...I am no longer in high school and don't wish to go back to those days, so I asked her about what was going on and she told me that what she said was true (she was determined to believe this) and told me that I was going to regret doing what I did (didn't do anything) and basically told me to have a nice life and thanked me for ruining her 30 year friendship with my mom (which I again haven't and would never...). I cut communication with her because I wasn't going to argue and defend myself against things that never happened and thought it was completely inappropriate that she would call my fiance and say those things in the first place, but I have been respectful to her when it has come to my mom and give her updates when she has asked and whatnot...

Not thinking anything about my necklace, I didn't pick it up because the wedding store is far away and was just going to wait until it came in with my dress, so yesterday when I went to see my dress and get the flower girl fitted, I asked if I could have my necklace to try on with my dress and the girl came out and said "It is here (because they special ordered it) but the person that paid for it cancelled her credit card payment of it and wanted it "returned". So 6 months after she bought me a gift, she took it back and now I am stuck with the task of finding another perfect necklace! (My cousin offered her's but it is small and simple so just not as "statement-y" as I would like since the dress is so simple and it is strapless)

Here is a photo of the gown with the old perfect necklace (John never comes on here so he wont see this! lol)

and here are some choices I thought could be potentials from online:

http://www.etsy.com/listing/68727303/pearl-crystal-statement-weddin...

http://www.etsy.com/listing/78600935/wedding-necklace-bridal-jewelr...

http://www.etsy.com/listing/26821368/pearl-wedding-necklace-vintage...

http://www.etsy.com/listing/68231627/black-tie-bib-style-wedding-ne...

http://www.etsy.com/listing/89059154/bridal-necklace-pearl-necklace...

http://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_Crystal-and-Floral-Embellished-...

Oh and this is my cousin's wedding necklace:

Thanks in advance for any help and suggestions you have! I had to vent the story because I was so flustered yesterday when the visit to the wedding store brought all the drama back!

Clarification: My Godmother didn't legitimately/medically have a stroke...it is what my sick mother said when I told her how my Godmother was acting and the things she was saying about me...my mom is not in the same state of mind and she really believed that maybe my Godmother had a stroke at the time. I would have said she went "psycho (bad word)" but stroke was more polite. lol

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OH HELL NO~  IF YOU WANT TO TALK ABOUT TOXIC FAMILY, COME TO ME!~!!!!!  I'm sorry about your shitty quasi relative.  NO one can beat my life, so go ahead PM me, been there done that.  You arent the first nor the last to have to suck up the s***.  You are an outstanding wonderful women with a wonderful life ahead.  Get ahead of this, sincerely, your best friend.

lol Sharon! Glad I am not the only one with the crazy people in her life...the ex Godmother is just one of the many nuts in my tree but I guess everyone has the crazies?

ex godmother?  crap,its not like its your mom.  I can do that conversation.   take care dear girl.

You will find the perfect necklace that is not attached to anyone for any  amount of money. Remember this is not about attire.........

Oh your dress is amazing, and you look gorgeous in it.  Because of the flower at the waist, I'd keep the necklace pretty simple.  You want people focused on your face.  I actually like your cousin's necklace...I'd also like a double strand of choker pearls with this dress.  Bottom line though, this is your day...you need to do whatever it takes to help you feel perfect!

totally agree with Jane about the flower at waist keep necklace simple.  It would be very easy for a "blinged out" necklace to become the focus.

Ditto what Jane says.

Ditto, keep the necklace simple. I like your cousin's - well the simplicity, maybe not the exact necklace. My dress was fancy too and I only wore my diamond pendant that I wear daily.

I like the first one.

I think the first one is the most like the "perfect " necklace that you thought you had.  It would give a nice balance to the flower at the waist. 

Your dress is as beautiful as you are, your Godmother on the other hand is not. I like the simple pearls best, I don't really care for your cousins necklace with your dress. I don't think it's classy enough. What ever you decide, do it for you.

Yah I am just not a fan of her necklace...it is not my style and don't think it goes with my dress either. But thank you for the compliments.

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