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Has anyone had their doodle suddenly decide they don't like you anymore.  I've always been Madiba's favorite and she's super attached to me.  Follows me everywhere and we always jog together.  Suddenly in the last few days she won't let me pet her and she just wants to be with her dad.  Her dad works from home and I leave every day but we've had the same routine since we've had her in May. Is this temporary?  I feel rejected, sob sob. My little girl suddenly is a daddy's girl.  We started crating her again at night, because she roams around too much but her dad puts her in the crate, for some reason she's mad at me.  Anyone else have a moody doodle?

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How old is your dog? Sounds to me like she needs an exam by a vet first to rule out a painful illness.
Fear stage? Thyroid issues? Head aches?
Who is her trainer? Dogs bond to the trainer.
Please give us more info
Is she afraid of you or just aloof? Afraid of what? Your hand? Your shoes? How is she out in public? Is she spayed? Geesh, I don't know

Madiba is 7 months.  She just got her 7 month check up, she's as healthy as can be.  She has no problems.  We take her to doggie school together, we both train her but my husband is the disciplinarian, he's actually mean sometimes and puts her in time out.  It's not that I don't discipline her but i spoil her more than he does.  She is definitely not afraid of me, not even aloof, it's like she just decided she's mad at me.  When my husband yells at her she runs to me and hides behind my legs, which I don't ask her to nor condone, but that's the pack order in our household.  This is a new thing, sometimes she does it to my husband but she's never done it to me, I've always been her mommy and her favorite.  She's spayed.  She's the most social dog in the world, she loves everyone and she loves playing with dogs.  When we need to have a sitter stay with her, the sitter brings her own dog to play with madiba and when they leave, it's like she gets depressed.  She's definitely an emotional, moody girl but she's the happiest most playful little doodle ever.  Hoping it's just a phase.  My husband things she's mad at me because I let him crate her and didn't stop him and she doesn't want to be in her crate. 

Something new with you?  Perfume, deodorant?   Something she is picking up on?  I know, I know....shot in the dark!

I will add my dog is very opinionated and picky. He often just wants to sleep. Like dogs do when tired, he will go find an out of the way bed. I think we all do ;)

aw I hope it's just a stage and shes back to loving you soon 

I think she's testing you and trying to see if you'll give her more attention or treats if she is "ignoring" you!  She's definitely at the age where she will start to test her boundaries! 

You mention the words: punish, discipline, yelling, hiding.
Exactly why is she punished? What is she doing? How do you punish?
What methods.
In your training, what methods do you use: clicker, positive reinforcement, obedience training? There are many. Do you combine these methods? Is it mostly NO phrases or are you using commands?

My husband gets angry at her because she is an obsessive chewing phase.  However, i have told him to put his shoes away and not leave things on the floor but he does it anyway, he thinks Madiba should just be disciplined enough to know not to chew.  She has chew toys and sticks and chews those too but if she really likes my husband's tennis shoes.  We usually eat dinner at our coffee table sitting on the couch and she lies at our feet.  She is hoping for some scraps, she's a treat freak also and we share things with her after she eats her kibble, from time time.  He doesn't want her near our food so he drags her by the collar and tells her to stay away.  He put her in time out in the corner for eating his belt and she just ran over and hid behind me.  This is not our training this is just the day to day stuff.  Her training we do with a clicker and positive reinforcement.  For the daily fits between madiba and my husband he tells her sit, stay, bad, etc. That is more reactive.  We teach her stays in class but at home I just want her to relax and be loving.  She really is a good girl, she does doggy things, but she never misbehaves, we take her everywhere and she is relaxed and stays in a sit or a down if we tell her.  So it's not the training but the daily reactive stuff at home that I don't react to but my husband does.  She does not chew my things because I put them away but I let her chew on old yucky shoes that I don't care about, rubbery things.  She needs a lot of stimulation and she does better at home if she's had a very active day.  My husband takes her out for long runs and to the dog park but she needs this at least twice daily and sometimes he doesn't make it out more than once.  We are doing doggy day care twice weekly now, this really exhausts her.  I should mention we live an apt so no yard, but she's a mini at 22 pounds and our apt. is big.  What could be the issue?

Hi Rebecca, the chewing stage will end and eventually she will get calmer with age.  Please remind your husband to put away his things (or just do it for him lol) so that Madiba doesn't get into his stuff and get punished for being a normal puppy going through teething stage.  

I hope he stops dragging her by the collar.  I noticed with my dogs that if you gently say no and make them back up to give you your space they understand after a couple of times.  Yelling really doesn't do anything either but excite them in my opinion...it is much more effective to look at them and say NO in a calm disappointed voice.  Please help your husband understand positive reinforcement :)

Yes exactly, thanks to all for supporting me in saying that punishment has no place with dogs.  I'm going to take over, and talk to my hubby about this.  I hope Madiba becomes a mommys girl again. 

I wonder why Madiba likes her dad more lately considering you are nicer to her?  I hope your talk goes well with your husband.  I know it's frustrating but a couple months of really focusing on positive reinforcement and training will give you years of a happy life at home with your pup.  I too have a lot of stuff to work on with my dogs (and they are 2 and almost 2 years old) but every thing is a work in progress right?  I do know that they catch on to things super fast and every day gets a little bit easier.  good luck and keep us updated!

Your dog is reacting to abuse. Abuse is punishment. Your dog is being abused  :(  

Dogs dont learn by punishment. They learn from rewards.  How can we help you?   This is a very bad situation.  I really do want thing to turn around now. I so much want to help you.  I believe you are asking for our help.

Your dog is not mean, your husband is mean.  Do you have children with this man?   If not, think long and hard before you do.  PLEASE get some help with your dog. A real trainer to show you how to TRAIN.  You really will love the good methods of training. 

May I offer some good trainers in your area?

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