Need Input this time not about shots!!!

[Jennifer and Jack]

I really would love to hear from experienced dog owners about a question I have. My mom's puppy is due to be born this weekend. We are second on the list for a female as well as a male.  My mom really wants a girl but she will take a boy if that is what is the only option.

 

I have a few concerns. As you know, my mom is going to be staying with me for the first few months of the puppies life, and they dogs are going to be together all the time on weekends and things like that.

 

If two girls are born, we are going to get a girl but my breeder asked me today about taking a boy if not.

 

Jack does not have small dog syndrome. I have worked very, very hard to break him of any small dog tendencies that he started to develop. He will share out of a bowl with another male dog. I lived with a friend who had two male goldendoodles (one standard and one mini) and one female puppy. Jack shared his food with them, though we were staying at their house for about six months. Toys he would not fight over but he was without a doubt the alpha dog of them all, even the big 70 pound dog.

 

I have a concern about bringing another male dog into the house, even though technically they will live apart for what we hope is many years, who ever dies first my mom or I will end up with each others puppy. I am afraid that Jack is going to bully another male dog, He has been great with the baby, sharing toys, and being very gentle, he was very good with my friends puppy, but she was a female.

 

I will not allow Jack to bully another dog, it breaks my heart. I do not want to spend my entire life correcting Jack either, when I first was staying with my friend with the other dog, I was for months correcting Jack, taking his toys away, feeding him last, making him be the last one out the door for walks, the last one in etc.

 

Do you think my concern is warranted in not wanting to get a male puppy and that he will do better with a female?

 

We can't just go by any dog here we have to consider Jack's Alpha personality. I just want the other puppy to be as free as possible to be themselves and not be bullied by Jack.

 

Anyone with any experience?

[Jennifer and Jack]

I was told if I had to get a male to get one that could hold his own by the trainer, and by the breeder she thought a submissive one.

[cheryl & oliver]

I agree with Karen also, I have two males, and Renny was much older when we got Oliver.  He was very good with him, but as Oliver grew and got bigger then him, he has made it very clear to Oliver, he will take just so much.  He will growl, and Oliver immediately backs off...Now Renny is a grumpy old man sometimes,( he is 14 1/2) but he and Oliver do love each other, they play, and they like to sleep for naps right with each other.  But Oliver has a hissy fit if Renny tries to go into his crate, that is his space, so he will bark, lol, and Renny moves away.  Renny is not a toy player, he could care less about them, so there is no problem there.  The dog we had before Oliver was also a male, and Token was definately the alpha with Renny, so I assumed that when we lost Token and brought OLiver in as a baby, Renny would become the alpha, but they both seem to be the alpha's at different times.  they both know where their boundries are with each other. But they do love each other, and most of the time Rennie plays the big brother, and when Oliver was little he would grab on to rennie's leg and they would walk that way...or should I say Oliver got a ride that way, lol...

[Jennifer and Jack]

Thank you for you input!!!

[Jennifer,Chloe & Myla]

I don't think it would matter what you get, A puppy is a puppy and I think Jack wikk be curious. When we got Myla a year after Chloe Myla took over the house not Chloe like we thought she would. I wouldn't pass up on the puppy choice just because it's not a girl if your mom doesn't mind. Good luck, everything will be fine.

[Jennifer and Jack]

Thanks Jenn

[Jennifer and Jack]

also what the trainer said about getting her spayed or neutered. Thank you all for your input, I am confident we will be okay either way now.

 

I am glad to know that the trainers don't think Jack is bossy too and that he has a "sweet and loving" temperament". Sometimes I am harder on him then anyone else.

 

I love my boy

[Sally, Ditzy Mitzi & Sgt. Pepper]

Wow, is this ever interesting!  When we got Pepper we were told it would not be a good idea to get a female with another female in our home.  Well, we got Sgt. Pepper and Mitzi was either jealous of the "new puppy" , or she became a "cougar" with her own new boy toy!  She has required a lot of behavior correcting because of her dominating "alpha" type behavior since Pepper has been with us.  I really don't think she is a bully, but she grabs toys from him,  grabs treats before we have a chance to give them to him, and has basically re-trained our way of doing things .  I now keep a spray bottle filled with water to correct her when they get too wild.  The two of them have run through the house and will jump on the sofa till it almost flies across the room into other furniture!

Sorry to go on and on but honestly I do not think it makes any difference whether they both are the same sex or not, at least our experience has been that.