Need some Advice please

[Jennifer and Jack]

I am sorry I took down original post, I don't think I did a Good job explaining what I was trying to say and I also don't think I was ready to hear some of the advice i got which goes to show me, don't ask if you don't want to know!!

Thank you for your input,

[Jane, Guinness and Murphy]

I should add that I would not consider this if his "reaction" was a one time thing that only lasted a few days, but it has been going on with Jack for quite a while now.  He's had so many physical manifestations of the stress that he's feeling due to your illness, and you've done a great job at trying to get a diagnosis.  It appears that all the Vets are saying that it is all because of his empathy for you.  In the short term, you won't be able to fix that as long as he stays in your home with all that is going on (IMO).

[Dori & Rua]

After reading all of this, I hate to say this, but I agree with Jane.  Sometimes the best thing you can do when you love someone is to let them go.  Based on everything that has been said, Jack isn't going to get better unless you are better.  If your Mom or a good friend was able to take him and give him security while you get better and they brought him to you visit you when there weren't people coming and going all day long or you went and visited him (when that's possible), perhaps that would help both of you.  You can focus on just you getting better and Jack's conditions clear up because the stress goes away.

 

Jennifer, I pray that God gives you strength and helps you get better.  You have suffered through so much.  One of the things that I believe, though, is that God doesn't give you anything you cannot handle.  You and Jack are in my thoughts and prayers!  Licks & Hugs from Rua to both of you, too.

[Jennifer and Jack]

Thanks Jane, I know what you are saying but this was just the first day my mom left. I think that F and Karen are right and that we just need time to adjust. I have not been treating him normally and my mom didn't either, we most likely have fostered his behavior. One thing I remember reading is when you have a dog and you coddle them if they are scared like in a thunder storm, it teaches them their is something to e scared of. So with Jack being nervous and us using him for comfort like idiots this is what happens>

We all have been scared in this house lately and to comfort ourselves we are coddling Jack who is picking up on stuff. I created this mess with him, I will fix it. He already is improving a bit
I think any more changes are just going to make things worse
As a side note, without hesitation I would give jack to my mom to keep if I believed he would be better off In The long term. I love jack way more then I love my own needs I just think Jack is typically very happy here, typically spoiled rotten and loves his life.

If his behavior continued to be nervous after I have done all I could I would consider temporary putting him with my mom, who will be coming back and fourth anyway.


Thanks for the advice, I honestly think Jack is already starting to adjust as he is on my bed with me for now

[Jane, Guinness and Murphy]

Great news that Jack is doing so much better!  I think I was misunderstanding your comments about the doctors saying that Jack displays illness when you're sick.  Anyway, I'm happy to hear that he's on the mend.  Now YOU need to get better. 

[Jennifer and Jack]

Jac is not much better but he has improved some I think Thanks I took down original post I didn't do a good job explaining myself and I don't think i could i wish I cold delete the whole thread. Thanks for the input