I really have a problem when my husband takes MY doodle out for a walk or anything. I am a nervous wreck the entire time. He doesn't spend any of the training time with him and assumes Amante is goin…

[Rose Ann and Amante]

I really have a problem when my husband takes MY doodle out for a walk or anything. I am a nervous wreck the entire time. He doesn't spend any of the training time with him and assumes Amante is going to listen to him. Is this a control thing, probably! But I still hate it.

[Rose Ann and Amante]

@Nancy he just wants him to listen to him but he doesn't use the same commands, he doesn't understand that he  still needs to be guided and told what to do. You just can't expect it yet!!! I just guess after lossing my last dog I am very protective of him!! It is actually pretty bad because when my hubby tells Amante what to do not using the correct command, Amante looks at me with this look that either means-what does he want, or seriously Mom you need to have a talk with this guy!!!

[BG and Gavin]

You have to tell yourself to relax Rose Anne.  It is great that your DH is walking Amante.  The more exercise he gets, the better.  Don't worry about the incosistencies between yourself and DH.  My DH walks Gavin every day after work and it is generally a "rules free" walk.  He lets hims stop and sniff and pee at will.  Gives him all of the leash and puts him on his right side instead of his left.  But every morning when I take him out, Gavin gets into his position on my left and walks with a l(mostly) oose leash as expected. 

[Nancy, Ned, Clancy, and Charlie]

PS - don't be selfish - it is a good thing that your DH wants to walk Amante and while you want Amante to love you best because he is 'yours' and you have done all the work, you really do want Amante to love your DH and bond with him.  Just think what if you had to go somewhere and leave Amante with your DH, wouldn't you want your DH to willingly love, snuggle and care for him?

[Nancy, Ned, Clancy, and Charlie]

Do you mean that your husband assumes that Amante is fully trained and should know behaviors that have never been taught?   Or do you mean that Amante should do for him what you have trained him to do?

Amante will learn to transfer what he has learned from you to when others walk him.  Hopefully your husband will use the same command words, but Amante can learn that 'heel' and 'with me' (for example) might mean the same thing. 

What I have noticed is that the doodle I trained minds me better than the doodle my DH trained and visaversa.