Tomorrow is going to be the hardest day of my life... need encouragement..

[Denise & Hunter!!!]

Someone told me yesterday that it was going to be the first day of the rest of my life...... yesterday was the day my beloved dad passed away.  He was 74 years old and I wanted him for 74 more.  I didn't get what I wanted.  I was very close to my dad, I am an only child and the picture of a daddy's girl.  I still can't wrap my mind around not being able to talk to him and hear his voice.  

 

Tomorrow are his calling hours and Tuesday is his funeral.  In a strange way I can't wait for them to be over so I can start to cope and then on the other hand I don't want it to come at all so I don't have to say good bye.  Actually, I already said good bye for now but I miss him beyond what I ever thought someone could feel.  

 

There is one very special Doodle Kisses member (she knows who she is) that was with my dad and helped my mom the night this nightmare began.  She is going to forever hold a special place in my heart and I will never be able to thank her enough for helping my family when I was not there.  

 

So here starts the rest of my life without my dad, but I will treasure every piece of advice and every word that he said to me.  I always know that "daddy loves me" because he told me every time I saw him.  

 

[cheryl & oliver]

Denise, I am so sorry to hear about your Dad...How wonderful that you had a wonderful and loving Dad to guide you thru your life.  He will always be with you, he will be in your heart forever.  The terrible pain of his loss will gradually get easier and in it's place lots of wonderful memories will take its place.  I lost my Dad 20 years ago next month, but he is with me, and always will be.  I feel him with me especially in times of need, when I was ill, he was there, I felt him.  And you will too, I always remember the things he taught me, his words of wisdom, that as a kid, I never appreciated, but as I got older and so much more now....Hugs to you and your family, and please accept my sincere condolenses....

[Bonnie and Kona]

Denise,

I am so sorry for your loss. There is nothing that we can say or do to make it better. I will pray that you will be comforted. I am so grateful to hear that you had a loving father. Not all can say that. It must make it so much harder to say good bye though. Holding you in thought and prayer.

 

I still miss my sister terribly after 8 years but the deep, searing pain that used to take my breath away is gone. I can think of her with such joy and gratitude now. I hope that will come for you soon.

[Nicky, Riley & Boris]

Denise, Your Dad is with you, in your heart,  right beside you and he will never leave you.  I know because my Daddy died when I was 22 and that is many years ago. He is with me every day.    Right now you are in a lot of pain and that is normal when you love someone so much.  In time you WILL be able to cope with this enormous loss but you will never forget.  I wish you strength to get through the next few days and send you all my very best wishes and prayers to help you to be strong.  If you need help please do ask for it.

[sandy b]

Denise, I'm so sorry for you loss. F is right, they never really leave us and he will always be in your heart.

[Lisa, Daisy & Dexter]

Denise, I am so sorry for your loss, I too lost my dad (in August of 09)....I still have messages on my phone that I listen to just to remember his voice.

I feel your pain and I am praying for you to be strong. I totally understand that you want it to be over so you can privately begin the healing process.

I gather that Dad was sick before he passed the same as my father, the reason for Hospice (the most wonderful thing I think). I remember his last month on this earth...he was peaceful, prayful and ready to be with the Lord, I had to let him go but I miss him so much. He is better now, all whole and perfect.

God Bless you, you are in my prayers.

[Joanne ~ Spud*]

Denise,

I am so sorry for your  loss. As many have said here, they think, talk with, and feel their parents presence long after they are gone.  My father left me with character, patience, understanding, and so much love.  I feel and see him everyday in myself and my children.  Especially my children. When times are tough, I reach out to him.  He always had a way for me to see things calmly.      

I see a lot of your father in you.  His love, his voice, and all he gave you, can never be taken away.  He will be with you always!   My heart and a big hugs goes out to you, your mom, and the girls. 

[Nina, Phil, Harlow & Lacey]

Loosing one's parent is tough and my heart goes out to you and your mom.  My mother passed a long time ago but I still talk to her at night when I am sleeping.  As Deanna says, with time the pain will lessen.  We are keeping you in our thoughts.

[Deanna & Desi & Cori]

Losing one's father is terrifically hard and I am so sorry for your loss.  My father passed away almost exactly one year ago, and sometimes I still forget that he's really gone.  I, too, was very much a "Daddy's Girl".  My fondest childhood memories are of the times I spent with my dad, his goofy sense of humor, and being in his classroom (he was my high school math teacher for three of my four years).  Your memories of your dad will always be there to comfort you and remind you of the special bond you had with him.  Although it is pretty trite to say "time heals" - there is an element of truth to it.  As time passes, the pain will still be there, but it will lessen.  As for the funeral, try to focus on it being a celebration of his life, rather than simply a time to say goodbye.  My dad's service was full of laughter (and food), just as my dad would have wanted.

[F, Calla & Luca]

I am really sorry to hear about your Dad. I still think and talk to my folks often even though they died long ago. They really never leave us.

[Jane, Rooney & Stuart]

Oh Denise - my heart is just breaking into a million bits.   I am so very sorry for your loss.  I hope that all of the wonderful memories that you have of him will help to comfort you.