Can we make a new rule on DK: No more rehoming discussions on the main forum!

[Sherri, Sophie, Winston, & Kitty]

I don't know if anyone has ever suggested this before but I'm just wondering since people aren't allowed to advertise puppies or breeders on the main forum, why are members allowed to come on here to advertise their adult doodles? It's particularly irritating when it's a new member who only joined for this purpose and will be gone as soon as they find someone to give their dog to.

 

I think there should be a group for "owner rehomes" so people looking to dump their dogs can go there to make all their silly excuses and the rest of us don't have to see it and be saddened by it. And people looking to adopt adult doodles can go there and sift through the 'advertisements". All of these posts about rehoming supposedly perfect dogs makes DK a very sad place to come to sometimes. I came here to see pictures of cute doodles to liven up my crazy day at work, and instead I see another completely ridiculous rehoming post that leaves me sad and angry. I'm starting to feel like coming to DK is like gambling with my happiness, one day all is good, the next day, sadness and frustration.

 

I really don't know how other members, particularly those who have been here a long time, have managed to deal with this for so long, but I'm asking nicely could we please find a way to stop all this rehomeing nonsense on the main forum and let's get DK back to being the happy place it was when I first joined. pretty please? :)

[Nicky, Riley & Boris]

I was only thinking the same thing myself...'gambling with my happiness' love that.

[Laurie, Fudge, and Vern]

Sherri, I am upset because we really were being nice and yet, the discussion got closed and now we don't know what will happen to that dog. Many of the suggestions made were doable if the person really wanted to keep their dog. I keep thinking maybe we could help ONE dog not be re-homed if we respond, but so far, that theory does not seem to be proving to be true. I am tired of it, too!!

[Sherri, Sophie, Winston, & Kitty]

That's the thing Laurie, she didn't want to hear suggestions. She didn't care what we thought, she just wanted an easy out - they almost always do. I know what you mean about wanting to help the doodles, but no matter what we do or say, no matter how nice we are, we can't make them become better people and do the right thing.

 

Let's find a way to better organize how we manage such discussions so that it doesn't bring us so much grief. There's nothing stopping members who want to help people like this from joining the rehoming group and offering their suggestions there. We can even post up articles or notes on things to consider when rehoming a doodle, so that people get educated without us having to repeat the same things over and over.

 

For me, I just don't want to see this stuff or be part of it. It makes me feel too sad. I also think these discussions might be a turn off for perspective new members who want a happy place to come and chat about their doodles. I know if I saw a lot of discussions like that when I first joined I likely would have stayed away. I think it gives a negative impression of the site.

[Laurie, Fudge, and Vern]

Sherri, I agree with you!! I think the re-homing group is a great idea!!

[Jarka, Monty & Auggie]

I just discovered the discussion, read through all the posts and was going to comment as well. It really made me soooo mad the discussion was closed! WTD!!!  Poor Wally!

[Karen, Jasper and Jackdoodle]

Perfectly stated, Sherri. I agree.

 

[Allyson, Peri & Taquito]

I definitely know what you are saying. Part of me hopes that good comes out of these posts, but I just don't know.  I was wondering if it's just me who's getting so darn emotional over each and every one. I am almost 9 months pregnant, saw the Wally post today and started crying.  I am having a hard time being able to look at these discussions any more because their smiling face ends up being replaced with Peri's and I just think about how lost she would feel without us.  Crying again can't take it anymore.... :(

[Karen, Jasper and Jackdoodle]

Ally, please don't cry. I feel the same way.

[Sherri, Sophie, Winston, & Kitty]

Awe Allyson. Don't cry! let's do something about it instead. And that would never ever be Peri! You are better than that.

[Allyson, Peri & Taquito]

Good point to bring up; it could be a negative turnoff to new members and I think we should maybe figure out a new way to do this, while still being able to help people (if that is possible).

 

And I am fine - not too much makes me cry really (even while pregnant), but I think these discussions may hit home with me in particular because so many rehomes are because of children coming into the family....and I just can't imagine my life without my dogs involved...even if they are licking baby from head to toe and stealing her toys!  And I am overwhelmed with having to take them out, cook for tacky, feed baby, etc....still don't imagine just saying "honey, we should get rid of the dog!".

[Laurie, Fudge, and Vern]

Allyson, Don't cry! Your dogs are lucky to have you!!

[L.M.]

I hear you Allyson....these rehoming posts are ALL terrible, but this one with Wally today made me cry too....he's 8 years old and I just can't comprehend getting rid of a dog that's 8...My two previous dogs have not even made it to 8 years old because they passed from illnesses and these people are trying to dump their adult dogs because of god knows what reason.  (I don't mean to be morbid...I only mean that I wish I had been lucky enough to spend as much time with my dear dogs as these people have and yet, they take that for granted.)  

Many of these one time posters looking for "rehoming" options are looking for a quick fix...someone to swoop in and say, "Oh yea, I'll take him!"  and unfortunately that's just usually not going to happen.