Can we make a new rule on DK: No more rehoming discussions on the main forum!

[Sherri, Sophie, Winston, & Kitty]

I don't know if anyone has ever suggested this before but I'm just wondering since people aren't allowed to advertise puppies or breeders on the main forum, why are members allowed to come on here to advertise their adult doodles? It's particularly irritating when it's a new member who only joined for this purpose and will be gone as soon as they find someone to give their dog to.

 

I think there should be a group for "owner rehomes" so people looking to dump their dogs can go there to make all their silly excuses and the rest of us don't have to see it and be saddened by it. And people looking to adopt adult doodles can go there and sift through the 'advertisements". All of these posts about rehoming supposedly perfect dogs makes DK a very sad place to come to sometimes. I came here to see pictures of cute doodles to liven up my crazy day at work, and instead I see another completely ridiculous rehoming post that leaves me sad and angry. I'm starting to feel like coming to DK is like gambling with my happiness, one day all is good, the next day, sadness and frustration.

 

I really don't know how other members, particularly those who have been here a long time, have managed to deal with this for so long, but I'm asking nicely could we please find a way to stop all this rehomeing nonsense on the main forum and let's get DK back to being the happy place it was when I first joined. pretty please? :)

[F, Calla & Luca]

Yes it is.

[Jane, Guinness and Murphy]

I agree with this F....but as you said only after I had made every possible effort to find a good home for them first.

[F, Calla & Luca]

Absolutely.

[F, Calla & Luca]

I am pleased but surprised to have others shzre my view.

[F, Calla & Luca]

Thanks I think. I thought I came up with them all the time : )

[Jennifer and Jack]

I would never ever leave Jack in a shelter ever...

[Pat and Traveler]

F, I agree with you on this.  We recently babysat for an very old dog, just for a day.  She is mostly deaf, has trouble walking, is sometimes incontinent, and I don't think she has much vision either.  She was terrified and miserable all day, trembled when anyone tried to touch her, was just so unbearably sad.  She didn't understand why she was in a strange place, with people she didn't know very well.  If I babysit her again, I'll insist that she stay in her own home, and I will care for her there, so she can at least have the comfort of familiar surroundings.  Her mom is elderly too, and if mom dies the kindest thing in the world would be to let this dog have a peaceful death at home. 

[F, Calla & Luca]

So sad but yes the world can get to be too scary in some circumstances and you are right about this dog 

I think.

[ERIC A. NATER]

My Comments are probably going to be as unpopular as the Girl that posted about Rehoming.  I have to agree with the comments from Gail, Adina, and Nicky.  This was a young Girl trying to get help to possibly save a Doodle from being put in a Shelter.  She needed help, not judgement.  Yes, it will be very hard to rehome an eight year old Labradoodle, but not one person mentioned the DRC or Idog.  Like Adina, I think it should be posted here, and a possible Link set up to make sure that the DRC and Idog are suggested, and links to both included.  As far as people complaining that they are tired of these sad posts, do they consider posts about Doodles that are sick, or Doodles that have died happy?  No, these are Posts from people that need help. Was it pleasant to read about Hurley's Cysts?  No, but the response and kindness that came from those Posts are what should make you feel good.  No matter how wrong the person is to want to Rehome a Doodle, we should not judge, but help that Dog.  In most cases, the decision had been made, and all we should do is give suggestions to make sure that Dog gets to a Rescue and is not dumped in a shelter.  Sure there must be more reasons this Dog is going to be rehomed.  Who can afford a house on a corner lot in a subdivision with a POA, and not be able to afford an E Fence?  They said they had one at their other house that was on top of the Fence.  First that would not be the place to put it, it should be in the ground inside the fence.  A Dog would likely only get a warning from this after being airborne.  I got one of my first Golden Retrievers from a couple who had a Baby, and decided they could not keep him.  It took him less than two weeks to adjust to his new home, and was one of the best Dogs I ever had.  Sure it will be harder on a Doodle that is eight years old, but maybe he jumps the fence because he is left outside all the time, but it would be better if he had to adjust to a new home instead of being dumped in a shelter. For whatever reason these people had decided to rehome their Dog and the Daughter was just asking for help.  We will never know the real reason, but it doesn't take a genius to figure out ways to keep the Dog from jumping the fence!  There might be people in the future that have legitimate reasons (death, strokes, sickness) to rehome a dog, and see all of these negative comments and are afraid to post.  I am sure to some people giving up their Dog will be one of the hardest things they do.  In the last 16 months I have Fostered (at different times) two Doodles, each for more than six months because they had Heart worm and fear issues.  To those Doodles, and to me, this was their home, and yet when the time came everything they had known for six months changed forever.  So sometimes I feel guilty about rehoming, but it can be a good thing. If these posts bother you, don't read them.  Let the people that want to help the Dog respond, or set up a link that does that.

[Lisa, Daisy & Dexter]

Okay, I took down my other comment as this makes real sense. WE can all choose not to look if we don't want to.

Those who can look past our first gut reaction could possibly help the next poor doodle at least go to a better place.

[Karen, Jasper and Jackdoodle]

Eric, I think people were taking her at her word based on the initial post. The discussion did make it sound at first as if the escaping the yard was the sole reason they were considering getting rid of the dog, so people were offering suggestions on how that problem could be solved.

Wherever anyone stands on this issue, I think we are all in agreement that if someone loves a dog and wants to keep it, we should try to help them do that first, before we suggest rescue, until it becomes apparent (as it did) that they really don't want the dog.

Otherwise, I agree with what you're saying.

[Laurie, Fudge, and Vern]

I agree with this!! It sounded to me like her parents were upset because the dog was jumping the fence and that was the only reason for the rehome. Offering suggestions did not seem like an attack to me. I also think we did say work with a reputable rescue agency and since every dog on the front page looking for a home has a link to the DRC, it just seemed like a no brainer to me.