Continuation of Sherri's Rehome Discussion!

[Laurie, Fudge, and Vern]

I have been up since 5:30 am thinking about Sherri’s discussion about all of the recent rehoming discussions.   She is right in that we have to come up with some way to deal with these discussions.  As worried as I am about the dogs in question, I am equally as worried about the way these discussions divide our DK community.  We have had discussions on being nice that didn’t end up so nicely and plenty of arguments as to how a discussion was handled and how it could have been handled better.  Sometimes I agree.  Sometimes I don’t, but yesterday hit a nerve because I felt like I was nice.  I said please and thank you and still we were not nice enough.  Even some of the comments about what we should have done, we did do, and still the poster got upset and closed the discussion and everyone is in agreement that the real loser is going to be that dog.  The bottom line is however I think we handled it or didn't handle it, we didn't get through to that poster and so I do agree, we need a better way.

 

I am not here to re-hash that discussion, because honestly I am mad about it and in the long run, no one should care about that as much as we do about helping the next dog that appears in the next rehome discussion, and we all know there will be another dog soon.  There is absolutely no way to control a discussion like the one yesterday or the others before that because unless we send out a script to all of our members telling them to please not respond emotionally or negatively to anyone trying to rehome their dog for any old reason, someone is going to respond passionately and get someone else mad.  At first, the thing that upset me yesterday is that people who had not read the comments or offered any assistance to the poster were critical of those of us who did, but since those people are some of the ones I respect the most here on DK, I also know they care as much about these dogs as I do and even if we don't agree, they have a right to their opinion.   Trust me, when I say that is a hard one for me :) I also know there is a wide range of people on DK with varying opinions and sometimes we have to put aside our personal feelings to get something done for a dog that needs our help.  I also know that behind every comment is the need to help a dog.

 

It seemed to me that the majority of the responders to Sherri’s post felt like we hardly ever talk anyone out of rehoming their dogs once they post and we should just respond with the facts and keep emotions out of responses.  With that said, I think the discussions are right to be on the front page, but I think we need a link or something to refer the person to the DRC or IDog and after that, I hope the discussion gets closed so no further comments can be made. 

P.S. Please note: if you disagree with me I will close the discussion :)

[Laurie, Fudge, and Vern]

Thanks, Jennifer! You made many good points!!

[Camilla and Darwin]

I think that is a good idea.

[Ricki and Tara (doodle)]

I agree, our present system of "helping" people with rehomes is just not effective as evidenced by recent events. I like the idea of having a link to post for people containing pertinent rehoming information.  Once they have that link I think any other comments are just going to be someone's opinion so I would like to see the post closed at that point too.

You make a really good point about not only how emotionally difficult the rehome posts are to handle but the subsequent repercussions in the community can be devastating as well. It's been a rough couple of weeks here on DK. It seems we just calm down from one controversial post when the next appears and the entire things start over again.  I'm looking forward to a new approach.

[Laurie, Fudge, and Vern]

Ricki, I agree with you and have finally stopped crying over your comment yesterday that you agreed with F.   Remember it is in the alliance, even if we agree with F or Donna, we NEVER say it out loud :)  Now, if Adina would just give you and me the power to close discussions at random, all would be right with the world again...LOL!!

[Ricki and Tara (doodle)]

I'm so sorry I broke the Lauricki Code of Honor yesterday by agreeing with F in public. It was in a moment of low blood sugar and my brain was in a temporary state of confusion. This morning I had breakfast before replying to any posts and that will be my policy from now on in order to avoid causing Lauricki any further shame. Yes, Adina would be wise too give us the Power of Closure. :)

[Laurie, Fudge, and Vern]

I am getting scared because they are not responding :) We should not have disclosed our alliance agreement publicly. Thank you for always eating first in the future.  LOL

[Ricki and Tara (doodle)]

They are probably out plotting their next discussing how wonderful we are!! :)

[Laurie, Fudge, and Vern]

Yes, I am sure that is what they are doing :)

[F, Calla & Luca]

I was merely out and about and thankfully free unaware of all this silliness comraderie. I do think if Laurie had the power of closure, DK would be all Laurie all the time and pretty soon instead of 10,000 members we'd have 10. Donna and I, if I may presume to speak for her,being mature adults believe in agreeing with the people who state views we support : )What a novel idea! Try it L and R, you might like it : )

[Laurie, Fudge, and Vern]

Wow.....I can see that day out did you some good!  I see absolutely nothing wrong with Laurie, Fudge, and Vern all the time, but since Ricki is still sleeping and I know we are two lumps that stick together, I think we have to amend that to Laurie, Fudge, Vern, Ricki, and Tara all the time :) You are not the first person to question our maturity and our geniusness, but I will tell you the same thing I tell all the others:

LOL...sometimes, I can't help myself.  Ricki, Do you support my views?

[Ricki and Tara (doodle)]

Being a mature adult I agree that it would be Ricki, Tara, Laurie, Fudge and Vern all of the time if we had the Power of Closure!!! :) Also agree with your adept assessment of F's comment.  So well thought out! Sheer Geniusness at it's best! See F! I'm supporting someone's views that I agree with!!! :) I get it!!!

[F, Calla & Luca]

It is hopeless but I tried : )