DON'T KILL THE MESSENGER

[Pam and Ginger Snap]

Hi All,

I have been on this site for a year and a half. I have gotten some great advise and made some nice friends.  I have gotten great grooming tips, food advice, lots of laughs and a few tears.  However, I have noticed recently when people ask questions, there is a tendency to be a little forceful with answers.  A lot of people are asking  questions or looking for solutions for real problems....aggressive dogs, food issues, re-homing issues...and instead of lending a sympathetic ear and helpful advice, there seems to be some quick responses with judging comments.  Often times I feel sorry for the person asking the question, and some of the answers are mean-spirited.  Some are very helpful.

Sometimes people don't see previous posts.  When someone re-posts something, or asks a question, again...the poster is not doing it to be a pain...maybe they just didn't see the original post.

I like this site. I like knowing peoples stories, and their pups.

I hope that this post can make people think twice before they post an answer to a post, where the poster is seeking advice.  The advice might be something that the poster does not like, but it can be stated in a kinder way.

For example, I am really nervous that people are going to react harshly to this post.

[Shannon and Finn]

So there is a DK drinking game too!?  You all should be ashamed of yourselves using your doodles like this. ;)

[Carol and Banjo]

LOL Shannon.   I think that's a GREAT idea!   A DK drinking game!   Let's see...who can come up with the rules!

[Shannon and Finn]

Anytime anyone uses a "doodle" related acronym would be a good place to start.  I LMAO the first time I saw OMD on DK!  I should say, LMDLAO (doodle loving a**?)

Well, then there is the newly added FOAT that could be fun, would be a secret toast amongst the readers from today's discussion!

[Donna K & Quincy]

Sherri, I <3 you! Amen sister!

[Carol and Banjo]

Sherri.....Thank you....you've said it perfectly.   I remember the days of being a "newbie" and sometimes feeling chastised but on further reflection realizing what was said was "dead on".      I'm so glad I didn't take it personally and stayed around.....I'm a better Doodle Mom for it!    The people on this forum are the BEST!

[Karen, Jasper and Jackdoodle]

That's my (virtual) daughter! She makes me so proud!

[Sherri, Sophie, Winston, & Kitty]

ha ha. Thanks Karen! I love that you have 'adopted' me (on the internet). :o)

[Ricki and Tara (doodle)]

:)

[BG and Gavin]

Group Hug!!

[Laurie, Fudge, and Vern]

Sherri, I think you are a jenius jeiunus jenyus really smart :)

[Nicky, Riley & Boris]

Perfect Sherri, I agree with every word you wrote here. 

[Pam and Ginger Snap]

Thank you for the support...I was worried too!!!!