DON'T KILL THE MESSENGER

[Pam and Ginger Snap]

Hi All,

I have been on this site for a year and a half. I have gotten some great advise and made some nice friends.  I have gotten great grooming tips, food advice, lots of laughs and a few tears.  However, I have noticed recently when people ask questions, there is a tendency to be a little forceful with answers.  A lot of people are asking  questions or looking for solutions for real problems....aggressive dogs, food issues, re-homing issues...and instead of lending a sympathetic ear and helpful advice, there seems to be some quick responses with judging comments.  Often times I feel sorry for the person asking the question, and some of the answers are mean-spirited.  Some are very helpful.

Sometimes people don't see previous posts.  When someone re-posts something, or asks a question, again...the poster is not doing it to be a pain...maybe they just didn't see the original post.

I like this site. I like knowing peoples stories, and their pups.

I hope that this post can make people think twice before they post an answer to a post, where the poster is seeking advice.  The advice might be something that the poster does not like, but it can be stated in a kinder way.

For example, I am really nervous that people are going to react harshly to this post.

[Sue]

Adina,  you are the queen of kindness and professionalism in my book. I don't think in 6 years I've heard an angry or rude comment from you. Even when, years ago you were being pummeled with rude comments to you when you first got Rosco. ( I think you may recall this). That is why you have a successful forum.

[F, Calla & Luca]

That is an eye opener. Rude comments about Rosco!! Our doodle mascot. How could this be. Yes, Adina could be a diplomat easily.

[Adina P]

Thank you Sue :-)

F, I was a typical overwhelmed-with-crazy-JAWS-puppy new owner and 'nothing was working' and I posted a lot and had the same questions over and over and wasn't satisfied with the advice I was getting.  A lot was assumed about me, my intent in posting and ability to handle Rosco.

[F, Calla & Luca]

Now that should be amusing to new puppy owners now, it is to me : ) I felt exactly the same way when I first was being chomped upon by Luca. But I didn't ask. TG I took him to training eventually though. Then I found DK.

[Karen, Jasper and Jackdoodle]

Not to mention that sexy profile photo you used to use; I would have joined the site as soon as I got your invitation, but I thought it was some sort of adult social group. (Wink)

[F, Calla & Luca]

Gee, the first one I remember Adina was in a crate I think.

[Shannon and Finn]

Doodle Kisses, the adult social group.  Now that would be an intriguing forum title!

[Karen, Jasper and Jackdoodle]

And don't forget that name: Doodle Kisses. We had a slightly off-color discussion awhile back about what that can mean in certain vernaculars.

[Shannon and Finn]

I can imagine!  I had to self-edit and delete the rest of my response since I should probably get to know everyone better before I "expose" my twisted sense of humor.  I will say that the Doodle Kisses Photos section came to mind.  No one would want to see pictures of my fuzzy little doodle.  Too far??

[Karen, Jasper and Jackdoodle]

Doodle is Australian slang for something: http://www.koalanet.com.au/australian-slang.html

We actually do have a place for your "twisted" sense of humor. Check out the Warped Humor Group!

[Shannon and Finn]

I have learned the same thing after having kids, what an eye opener!  I agree with everything you said, everything.  Nicely put.

[Ricki and Tara (doodle)]

Well said Joanne.