Morbid talk... Just for a minute

[Jennifer and Jack]

Today the Path Lawyer and Social worker were at my house... I had a million paper work things to fill out and finally I know made a real will. I had no problem what so ever with anything except Jack......... of course Jack. It was easy to decide who would get any money and or the house....

My mom wants Jack of course... and of course I want her to have Jack because that would be the smoothest of all transitions ....... since he is so attached... 

My mom is 72.. Jack will be five in March and Molly just turned two.... I am petrified that the proper arrangements won't be made for Jack and Molly after my mom dies..... 

There isn't anyone in my family that would take them or that I would allow them to go to... I want them to be together as that is all they will have and know....

What I don't know is how to go about making sure this happens.... I have had a friend tell me they would take them.. but in reality that would make it four dogs for them all around the same age.... Her husband already doesn't want her to get more dogs....though it wouldn't be that they couldn't afford them.....

I don't know if this is impossible but I want to have this worked out.. where they will go when my mom and i are not alive anymore should my mom not live to see both of them end their life....

Most of the people I know that I would let Jack and Molly go to already have a dog or three and it is just to much to add to the mix...

I know for now I can say to ask DRC for help placing them and that my mom could leave some money for them to be cared for.. and I love and trust how DRC screens them..... but they would be heart broken if they can't stay together.... they will have already gone through so much change.

I know I can't control everything but I would have so much peace if I knew that Jack and Molly would always be able to stay together and that they would be loved and cared for in the manor in which they are used to...

Please don't judge me for getting a dog knowing I was sick...... I had no idea any concept of what a dog was like before I got Jack.... he was bought for me as a gift... and Jack and Molly are very much my children now.... what is done is done.......

I will not send them back the breeder either. Love my breeder but I will not do that. Any ideas or advise? What an awful feeling not to have it settled......I can't even tell you//how sickening it is/... and we don't know timing of anything for either one of us... but doing all this paper work, wills and wishes really smacked me in the face.

[Bonnie and Kona]

That's exactly what I am watching for... you living a ridiculously long and productive life!

[Cheryl and Finnegan]

From your lips to God's ears, F.  And if something were to happen, everyone here would make every effort to make sure Jack and Molly found a loving home, together. 

[Jennifer and Jack]

Great, there is no way to be able to thank you

[Cheryl and Finnegan]

You don't have to thank friends :) Just stay stubborn and spunky! And be at peace about this.

[Julie and Charlie]

I remember discussing this on DK sometime in the recent past!

I've told my parents and two friends what the plan with Charlie should be-- in writing and orally to make sure they understood. If there is something short term (car accident, fall down the stairs, whatever), they know who has a key to the house, who can take him short term, and if that doesn't work, they have the name of my preferred boarding facility and my emergency credit card. They also all know long term that he belongs with my parents or my brother, but if that fails, to please contact his breeder- I trust her to find the right home for him if no one I love is able.

Joanne is right, I just have to trust that my wishes will be followed, and I am sure they will.

[Julie and Charlie]

PS- didn't we decide that everyone should call Karen? :)

[Karen, Jasper and Jackdoodle]

LOL, assuming that I'm still around. :) 

[Jennifer and Jack]

Karen would be perfect!!!! Thanks Karen!!!!!!! :)

[Bonnie and Kona]

Love!

[Jennifer and Jack]

Joanne you are an amazing human being.......so many people on here are.....I purposely never had children so I wouldn't have to deal with this...little did I know jack would be loved like a child...and Molly and Jack after my mom passes would be all they had.....

Watch me be stubborn and live a long time...that would be my dream......I wonder if their insurance can stay with them even if they switched owners? I will have to call pet plan......Molly and Jack both would have all their expenses paid....for their life and if their insurance could transfer we would do that too and pay for it ..

It has been an incredibly morbid day.......nothing a little,chocolate and wine can't fix.....but it is true...I trust the people on here more then anyone..........

One of my fears is that by the time my mom passes Jack and Molly may be senior dogs.....I want my mom to outlive them of course and she does to obviously...but since they are little....they may live long lives which we want too...

I never knew love like this......and with this amount of love comes nerves and fear!


At least they could look on my page on here and my posts and see Jacks history of his neurotic mom....

[BG and Gavin]

I hope you live a long and happy life Jenn.  Not sure what your mom's health is like, but my next door neighbour is 77 and his mother is still alive at 103 and lives ON HER OWN in her own house.  Let Marcus know what you want.  You can trust him to carry out your wishes.  All your DK pals would rally, so don't let the future of your fur kids distract you from your fight.

[Jennifer and Jack]

Oh I forgot you sort of know Marcus and Carmel....amazing people....we don't have longevity in our family but my mom is determined for our babies...before she got Molly she thought she had lived it all..now she has tons of plans.....

She has High blood pressure and I always worry I a stressing her out too much......I wouldn't be me if I want worried ...but I do feel so much better being able,to openly discuss it on here...I feel settled now with this and we have a plan...hopefully one we never need to use ..