RANT UPTDATE*****

[Jane, Rooney & Stuart]

I live in a beautiful home, in a beautiful golf community, surrounded by beautiful people but (that is a different rant).  In the summer 99% of them live up north, Canada or someplace in between but this time of the year they all come back.  Let me begin by saying that I'm a mid-west gal, chubby and of a conservative viewpoint.  So basically I'm saying "that I do not fit in".  But I do my best to be friendly and try.  Last year Rooney and I went to small dog time every day at 3:30 and he got to run and play with all the other small dogs but by the end of summer he was pushing the size limit.  Now with Stuart at 53 lbs we go to big dog time but I am OVER IT.  These men bring their giant Weimaraners, mixed breed dogs (that have that boney head of a pit) and delight when their dogs play very aggressively.  Stuart and Rooney hold their own but neither one has an aggressive bone in their body.   And I can't tell you how proud I am of Stuart who will put himself between another dog and Rooney if he feels that it is getting too rough.  So tonight - as things are going as usual and I'm trying to maintain the peace without drawing notice - one of the men asks me what mix Stuart is and I say " he is a Poodle-Golden-retriever mix and he doesn't have an -------   I WAS going to say an aggressive gene when he jumped into my sentence and said "any brains"!  So basically he said Stuart didn't have any brains being 1/2 poodle/retriever!  I very calmly looked at him and said "poodles and retrievers are some of the smartest breeds".   All of this in front of a group of other men and one woman who looks like a man.   I let the boys play a bit longer and then left.  I hate to punish Rooney & Stuart but I will not take them back.  When dh comes back from China he is either buying me a lot to build on that has room for a fenced dog area or I'm going home to MI and not coming back.  I can't take these smug, skinny, liberal, rude, A$$holes any longer!!!!  Stuart is the sweetest puppy you would ever see and I'm not taking this cr@p any longer.  I would NEVER say anything so rude to another person EVER.  I don't care who you are, think you are or what you have, but I'm not taking it.  I grew up very poor but I was taught kindness, courtesy, and manners.  Dh is gone and I'm crying - why are people so mean?  I just hate these snobs!!!!!!!!!!!! 

[Lisa, Daisy & Dexter]

Jane, what you need is a girlfriend who is not a neighbor that can tell them where to get off. Oh how I wish I could have been there. How dare they be rude to a beautiful and intelligent woman alone with her two adorable dogs...they are IGNORANT!

You of course behaved like a proper lady...I would have made a fool of myself. Good for you. I am sorry they upset you. Be proud of who you are... I am proud of how you behaved.

 

[Jennifer and Jack]

Just like when someone said something about Jack in the Halloween contest, everyone from here jumped on there and came to Jack's defense, too bad we can't do that some way......

[Jennifer and Jack]

Oh don't give anyone that much power over your emotions, Screw what people say, Just because someone says something doesn't make it true.... 

 

My mom has a dog park where they have over 400 dogs that are members.. My mom goes to small dog group time, but I always take the dogs to the mixed time because i want them to be used to all size dogs.

 

Most people are very friendly, but I don't fit in there either, I have heard some rude comments about golden doodles too. I am from New Jersey and I live in the absolute southern bible belt..sometimes just my accent irritates people. 

 

I say you hold your head up high, you  bring your dogs anywhere you darn well please and you live your life doing what you want, forget cranky old men.

 

Big hugs..

[F, Calla & Luca]

Good ideas!

[Carol and Banjo]

Jane - There's no doubt in my mind that you mean what you say.   Nothing worse than smugskinnyliberals....not even alligatorinthebackyard!    Have a glass of wine, find the lot you want and when DH gets home you can have a solid plan.

Stuart is such a good little/big brother!!!!    That's so sweet!    (HUGS) to you!

[Jeanne, Tura and Dolly]

Wow Jane that was so unkind. Do you think he was trying to be funny? He clearly hurt your feelings and was a jerk but I'm sure there must be some nice people in Florida to make up for these guys. Hopefully you can go to the park when they are not there.
I was at my dog park yesterday and encountered a very uncomfortable situation. One owner had 2 boxers, very energetic. Another owner had a 6month old doodle, also playful. And then there was me. . My dog was playing OK with the others but the boxers were jumping on and playing a little rough with the little doodle. The boxer owners were saying back off, let them work it out, youre worrying energy is making it worse and the doodle owner was being very protective and saying the boxers were aggressive. Tempers flared and the boxer people left,honking and peeling out. In my mind I was thinking...they both have valid points but we get very emotional about our pets. I'm not sure who was right,but was glad it wasn't my dog that was the problem. If my dog gets too rough with another dog, I leave. if there is a dog playing too rough with my dog, I leave. I try to protect my dog and others. Can't imagine saying something so unkind to another owner like that guy did to you....

[Jane, Rooney & Stuart]

Guys - I HATE letting these jerks get to me!  Be rude to me, o.k. - I'll suck that up but be mean to my doodle - AND NOW I'M MAD AND HURT!!!  I have very ugly thoughts running through my head right now.  Knowing that Stuart is loved here helps but really - we either have to build or leave.  I hate to stress dh out about it but he knows that I have struggled to fit in here.

[Cyndi, The Boys & Callie]

Jane, we have never spoken before now.  However, I'm from Atlanta and all I say is give those guys H-E-double hockey sticks. I've lived in the South my entire life (I'm 52 and lived Texas through Kentucky) and all I can say is that men (and some women) in South respond to that. Unfortunate, but true based on my experience. Never let them think that you or the doodles are less. Kind of like women's lib for doodles.  I'm having a glass of wine for you.

[Ronna, Murphy & Wilson]

Lisa is right.....maybe I should come for a visit and kick some ass for you!

[Donna K & Quincy]

The correct response, "Oh! Sorry, I didnt' know we were talking about you, I thought we were talking about the dog".

I will never figure out why people think it is ok to be rude.

[Jane, Rooney & Stuart]

That is just the thing - I'm 54 and these people are all in their 50's and 60's.  I was raised to have some respect for others - what happened to these people?  I just don't get it.  I can stick up for myself but today I chose to leave rather than cause a scene.  I need for my mental health to get into a better place;  i.e. a house with a fence.  Dh and I are going to be having a BIG talk upon his return!!!! 

[Lynn D.]

Heh, funny! I liked that.