Ever Have Second Thougths About your Doodle?????

[Gail+Kathleen,(Sydney+Olivia:)]

After dealing with another medical issue with Sydney are we the right Doodle Moms?  As I sit here with tears in my eyes, I ask, Have any of you had second thoughts about having brought your Doodles into your homes?  Well, we have......both Kathy and I have had conversations many, many times about Sydney our first Doodle......As tears stream from my eyes, I must share with you that Sydney was not what each of you know what a Doodle would look like as you brought each of your Doodles into your homes. We have been disappointed not only with how Sydney looks, but the fact that she sheds and most importantly, that she has had lots of medical issues from the time she was a puppy.  We grew up with that "guilty complex" that keeps us fom what others would find easier to do what suits their lifestyle.  I know that resentment towards our breeder is not the answer.  Perhaps finding out what the "Reason for our having our "SYDNEY" may be the answer some day.  All of you on DK cannot probably relate to our feelings since we see how your expectations have been met.  We are wondering what is the real reason to have Sydney in our lifes?

[Laurie, Fudge, and Vern]

Gail, I sure hope Sydney feels better soon and you get some rest. Keep us posted as we care about all of you :) It is ok to get frustrated and vent...we all need to do that from time to time. I never doubted that you love your dogs. Good luck!

[Gail+Kathleen,(Sydney+Olivia:)]

Laurie, thank you for your nice note.  We were at the Vet this evening and he took more blood to check her organs.  The Vet has her on so many meds, we are really starting to question the treatment.   I am checking the side effects on line and getting more upset as I research more.  Sydney is actually crying in her sleep right now.  We are feeling so helpless and don't know what else to do for her.   My sister who was on chemo is familiar with some of the meds Sydney is on and got us into a panic.

[Laurie, Fudge, and Vern]

Gail, I feel so badly for all of you. If only Sydney could tell you what is hurting. I wish I had an answer for you. I hate to think of poor Sydney crying in her sleep. I have a sister who is a Nurse Practictioner (no idea how to spell this) and she always scares the crap out of me when ever something happens to any of us medically. When my daughter was born prematurely, I had to tune her out because she told me too many facts, and I just wanted to hear that everything was going to be ok. What is the vet saying? Gosh, I wish I could help! We will keep all fingers and paws crossed for an answer for all of you. Take care!

[Bonnie and Kona]

This is such a difficult time. I pray you are able to discern the best course of action and have peace about how to proceed for poor Sydney and for your family.

[F, Calla & Luca]

It really sounds like Sydney might need a second opinion. Perhaps if she can regain her health she will be happier and then all of you could be happier.

[Gail+Kathleen,(Sydney+Olivia:)]

F.  Your suggestion about a second opinion is definitely worth a try.  As we sat in the Oradell Animal Hospital on Friday and were pretty impressed with the Dr. and the staff, we actually decided we are changing our Doodles' Vet for their annuals, etc.  We were going to wait until all settled down but it doesn't seem like we should wait.  After tomorrow's results from our current Vet, we are contacting the Dr who treated Sydney at the Oradell Hospital last Friday.

[F, Calla & Luca]

I think that sounds like a good new start. I hope that the change helps Sydney get better soon.

[Bonnie and Kona]

There is nothing like a good vet to help make decisions wisely. I hope the very best for you and your girl.

[Jeanne, Tura and Dolly]

I had a Golden Retriever who was in everyone's opinion a total pain in the ass.  Despite a gazillion dollars in training he would jump on everyone (split 2 peoples lips) I had to put him away in rooms when we had company because he would be relentless in his attention to everyone.  Also, he ate 25 feet of siding off of the back of my house. Etc Etc lots of stories.  I used to worry what would happen to him if I died cause NO one would love him like I did.  When he was 5 he started pulling his hair our and it took a year to figure out he had severe allergies. Needed weekly shots at about $10 per week for the rest of his life.  He died of brain cancer after 6 months of expensive therapy at age 12 and I was really devastated. Despite everything he was my buddy.

What do you think Sydney is trying to teach you?  Patience? Tolerance?  Forgiveness?  I don't know.  She is with you for a reason and hopefully you can love her for who she is and what she brings into your life. 

[Gail+Kathleen,(Sydney+Olivia:)]

Jeanne, you have something there.  I have always been short on patience (pretty much my whole life) but as for having tolerance and forgiveness I could win a trophy.  Maybe it IS patience she is trying to teach me.  Right now, I am too exhausted to be patient or impatient (not only from worrying about Sydney!!!).  We just want Sydney to be OK.

[shelly]

Every time I check in to see how Sydney is doing, it breaks my heart.  I feel so bad for ALL of you... I can imagine how consumed your daily life must be with worry.  I do too believe that a second opinion may be needed.  Sometimes as we try and treat - even our children of something... too much medication can mask what is truly going on.  Sometimes a new look (from another vet) may bring the answers this one may be missing.  I'm the type of person who 'wants to make everyone happy and not hurt anyone's feelings.. but NOT when it comes to the well being of my children or pet.  I wish I had some answers for you.  I hope you find some comfort in getting your thoughts down here and receiving everyone's support.  I will be praying for poor Sydney and for both of you!  All my best!

[Karen, Jasper and Jackdoodle]

I hope that Sydney and her family will soon be feeling better. Hang in there.