Need Input this time not about shots!!!

[Jennifer and Jack]

I really would love to hear from experienced dog owners about a question I have. My mom's puppy is due to be born this weekend. We are second on the list for a female as well as a male.  My mom really wants a girl but she will take a boy if that is what is the only option.

 

I have a few concerns. As you know, my mom is going to be staying with me for the first few months of the puppies life, and they dogs are going to be together all the time on weekends and things like that.

 

If two girls are born, we are going to get a girl but my breeder asked me today about taking a boy if not.

 

Jack does not have small dog syndrome. I have worked very, very hard to break him of any small dog tendencies that he started to develop. He will share out of a bowl with another male dog. I lived with a friend who had two male goldendoodles (one standard and one mini) and one female puppy. Jack shared his food with them, though we were staying at their house for about six months. Toys he would not fight over but he was without a doubt the alpha dog of them all, even the big 70 pound dog.

 

I have a concern about bringing another male dog into the house, even though technically they will live apart for what we hope is many years, who ever dies first my mom or I will end up with each others puppy. I am afraid that Jack is going to bully another male dog, He has been great with the baby, sharing toys, and being very gentle, he was very good with my friends puppy, but she was a female.

 

I will not allow Jack to bully another dog, it breaks my heart. I do not want to spend my entire life correcting Jack either, when I first was staying with my friend with the other dog, I was for months correcting Jack, taking his toys away, feeding him last, making him be the last one out the door for walks, the last one in etc.

 

Do you think my concern is warranted in not wanting to get a male puppy and that he will do better with a female?

 

We can't just go by any dog here we have to consider Jack's Alpha personality. I just want the other puppy to be as free as possible to be themselves and not be bullied by Jack.

 

Anyone with any experience?

[Karen, Jasper and Jackdoodle]

I don't think sex is going to make any difference in the way Jack treats the puppy. If he's going to bully the pup, he's going to do it whether it's a male or a female.

Jackdoodle does not love other dogs in our home. Whether we have a male or a female foster, he treats them with equal disregard, lol.

My last dog was a very dominant female, and she also did not discriminate; she was dominant over female fosters or visiting dogs, and she was the same way with males.

You should also consider that most adult dogs will give a puppy of either sex some license, and will tolerate things they wouldn't tolerate from another adult dog.

Really, I would not worry about the sex of the puppy making a difference in the way Jack will treat him or her.

[Jennifer and Jack]

Karen, I just paid my trainer to tell me the exact almost word for word thing that you just said... I swear to goodness that is exactly what she said, She said Jack will treat either a male or female puppy the same and she felt that he would be good to it because it is a puppy. She said if I was to bring in a male the same age or even one year younger there could be some issue..

 

Oh well, he learned a few tricks as well so it was worth the trip.. but you really do astound me with your knowledge.. you should start charging!!!

[Lindsey]

I agree with Karen...I don't think the sex will make much of a difference.
HOWEVER...I will say, our little guy was a perfect, housebroken, angel...unless a female dog came around and then for whatever reasons...he would pee inside on the female dogs bed.
We can no longer have Mollys bed out where Ali can get to it. That was the only problem we had with different sexed dogs in the house.

[Jennifer and Jack]

Funny my mom's puppy's name is going to be Molly too!!! Jack has never sprayed in the house to my knowledge, pee yes, He never has sprayed in Pet Smart even over areas that have been obviously peed on, I hope he doesn't start that behavior is not going to fly with me.

[Adina P]

Ditto to Karen's comment.  There's alpha and there are bully.  And he may not necessarily be bad with the new puppy and new puppy can still shine based on how you and your mom deal with it all.   s

[Jennifer and Jack]

Thanks Adina, One of Jack's trainers said the same exact thing as you and Karen.. She said Jack is not a bully by any stretch of the imagination...he is just Alpha and she felt that he would give a lot of room for the puppy!!!!

[Tina, Clover, Plus 5 More]

I agree with Karen.  If Jack is going to bully it doesn't make a difference what sex the pup is.  Adult dogs usually tolerate a puppy a lot more than they would another adult dog.

[Jennifer and Jack]

You all are so stinking smart.. who needs anyone else but you all!!

[Jane, Guinness and Murphy]

I agree with everyone.  I started with Guinness who was never a bully, but he very much tried to be "in charge".  We brought Murph into the house as a puppy and Guinness managed it just fine.  He was never "motherly" to Murph, but he learned to put up with a lot, and little by little he taught his brother what he would and would not allow.  He lets Murphy get away with a lot of things, but every now and then he's reached his limit and he will give a quick (and very to the point) correction, and Murphy knows he's gone too far.  I've actually studied Guinness's "corrections" because they are SO EFFECTIVE!  So, I wouldn't worry at all about another male...they'll be good for each other.

[Jennifer and Jack]

XOXOXOXXOX to you Jane thanks

[Jennifer and Jack]

My mom's dog will be the same size as Jack male or female, except it is an english one so it will be bigger boned!!!

[Ricki and Tara (doodle)]

Is it possible for the breeder to predict if a puppy will have a dominant or submissive personality? If so, maybe she could select a less dominant puppy which might be a better match for Jack than another Alpha.

We had an Alpha female for about 8 years before we brought home a 3 year old submissive male dog. They were a perfect match. She liked to tell him what to do and he liked being told! In their case, it wasn't bullying at all it was just that their personalities were a perfect match! :)