Drama has caused me to choose a new necklace for my wedding dress..need help!

[Katie, John & Parker pup]

So the day I had picked out my wedding dress friend Jennifer and my Godmother came to try them on with me (since my mom and sister and grandmother live in Bermuda) and I found the perfect gown after trying on only 4 dresses (completely the opposite of what I had gone in for). When I was prancing around the store in the dress, my Godmother saw a necklace in their accessory case that might look nice with the gown so I tried it on and we ALLLLL loved it! Then when we asked how much it was ($400), I decided that was too scary of a price, but my Godmother insisted on buying it, saying it was her gift to me for my wedding day since it looked so perfect with the gown (this was the beginning of March 2011). In August (after my mom had been ill a couple months and stresses were high already, my Godmother decided to "have a stroke" as my mother really believes and go crazy for no reason at all. One day behind my back while she was talking to me about normal stuff, she called my fiance and told him I was selfish and told him all of these insane lies that I would never say or do (such as call her fat and tell her what she was allowed to eat and say awful things to her boyfriend [whom I like and got along with great)...NEVER in a million years would I dream of saying something like that to ANYONE, not even the nasty girls that bullied me in middle school and high school! I was going to ignore it thinking maybe she was just stressed about my mom being ill too and needed to vent and take something out on me because I was close, but then she started posting things on her facebook wall about me...I am no longer in high school and don't wish to go back to those days, so I asked her about what was going on and she told me that what she said was true (she was determined to believe this) and told me that I was going to regret doing what I did (didn't do anything) and basically told me to have a nice life and thanked me for ruining her 30 year friendship with my mom (which I again haven't and would never...). I cut communication with her because I wasn't going to argue and defend myself against things that never happened and thought it was completely inappropriate that she would call my fiance and say those things in the first place, but I have been respectful to her when it has come to my mom and give her updates when she has asked and whatnot...

Not thinking anything about my necklace, I didn't pick it up because the wedding store is far away and was just going to wait until it came in with my dress, so yesterday when I went to see my dress and get the flower girl fitted, I asked if I could have my necklace to try on with my dress and the girl came out and said "It is here (because they special ordered it) but the person that paid for it cancelled her credit card payment of it and wanted it "returned". So 6 months after she bought me a gift, she took it back and now I am stuck with the task of finding another perfect necklace! (My cousin offered her's but it is small and simple so just not as "statement-y" as I would like since the dress is so simple and it is strapless)

Here is a photo of the gown with the old perfect necklace (John never comes on here so he wont see this! lol)

and here are some choices I thought could be potentials from online:

http://www.etsy.com/listing/68727303/pearl-crystal-statement-weddin...

http://www.etsy.com/listing/78600935/wedding-necklace-bridal-jewelr...

http://www.etsy.com/listing/26821368/pearl-wedding-necklace-vintage...

http://www.etsy.com/listing/68231627/black-tie-bib-style-wedding-ne...

http://www.etsy.com/listing/89059154/bridal-necklace-pearl-necklace...

http://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_Crystal-and-Floral-Embellished-...

Oh and this is my cousin's wedding necklace:

Thanks in advance for any help and suggestions you have! I had to vent the story because I was so flustered yesterday when the visit to the wedding store brought all the drama back!

Clarification: My Godmother didn't legitimately/medically have a stroke...it is what my sick mother said when I told her how my Godmother was acting and the things she was saying about me...my mom is not in the same state of mind and she really believed that maybe my Godmother had a stroke at the time. I would have said she went "psycho (bad word)" but stroke was more polite. lol

[Elizabeth & *Kosci*.]

Is there anyway you can hire it or something like it, eBay?

[Barbara B., Sasha & Oliver]

You look so beautiful Katie !!!  I am sure you can find another necklace similar to the one you have on, maybe on line?  I am like you.. once you find the perfect accessory its hard to find something to match.  There is soooo much out there you just have to find it.  I also agree that the necklace is stunning and does match your dress perfectly.

Note: on the godmother...... life is too short to waste your energy on negativity, leave it behind you and move on and enjoy this wonderful time in your life.  Vent, let it out and forget it, if it surfaces again .. ignore it !!!  Been there too !!!

 

[Dori & Rua]

First...you look absolutely beautiful!  Second...so sorry about your Godmother.  It sounds like something happened to you...perhaps early signs of dementia?  Hopefully there is someone close to her (unless she is pushing everyone away) that you can talk to and see if they can help her.  Third...given the fact that most of the time the only thing I wear is a watch and one of holes in my ear has closed so I don't even wear earrings anymore, I would be of no help on the necklace choice.  Other than to say go with what makes you happy!

[Laurie, Fudge, and Vern]

Katie, First of all, you look stunning in your dress and whatever necklace you choose will be great. Secondly, something is wrong medically with your godmother for her behavior to change so radically. I saw this all the time where I volunteered....paranoia, anger, unexplained behavior, confusion, etc. I hope she gets the help she needs.

[Sherri, Sophie, Winston, & Kitty]

I was thinking the exact same thiing Laurie. This is exactly how my mom started behaving when she first started showing signs of having dimentia. She went from being the world's most docile, introverted person, to loud, angry, aggressive, and telling all kinds of carzy stories that weren't true.

Katie, If your godmother starts to sound incoherent I would find a way to get her looked at by a doctor. This doesn't sound normal, unless she has been prone to behaviour like this in the past, but from what it sounds like she might have something going on there. Don't mean to scare you but it is worth considering.

[Sherri, Sophie, Winston, & Kitty]

sorry katie, I know you don't need any more burdens right now. :(

and also, you look stunning! I'm so excited for your big day. I agree that less is more, but it is your day so if you want a killer necklace then go for it! make yourself happy :)

[Nancie & Gracie Doodle]

Oh boy, if anyone ever wants to know about dementia I have lots of experience with it.  My mother had it for 5 years and it got worse and worse.  The doctor said that some people just go into their own little world but are happy, sweet and nice.  But noooooooooooo, not my mother.  She became hateful, nasty, mean and vindictive.  It broke my heart as she was my best friend.  I knew better and I know in my mind that was not my mother saying the things she did but I hated her...I just couldn't help it.  I was the one she was meanest and hateful to yet I was the one who was always there for her.  That 5 years really took a toll on me.  She passed away last May from a stroke and as horrible as this is to say, it was a relief for us all. 

[Sherri, Sophie, Winston, & Kitty]

I'm so sorry Nancie. I know they say that they are the worst to the people closest to them. My mom is horrible to my dad. It is very sad and difficult for everyone.

[Elizabeth & Cosmo]

Katie, your dress is simply lovely! I agree with Joanne and others who suggest something delicate, feminine, and graceful for a necklace.

I wanted to suggest this Honora pearl station necklace from QVC:

http://www.qvc.com/qic/qvcapp.aspx/view.2/app.detail/params.item.J2...

I'm not a big QVC shopper, but I have purchased Honora pearl jewelry from them before. I have been very, very happy with the quality and the price.

I think the airiness of this necklace will work well with your dress, and it's a classic style that you can wear and enjoy for years to come.

[Joanne ~ Spud*]

Very nice suggestion, Elizabeth.  Just as you described, pretty and airy

[Elizabeth & Cosmo]

Thanks, Joanne!

[Jennifer,Chloe & Myla]

I agree that this is nice and simple and has the pearls, I think the other may have been too big? Of course it's up to you but you look great in the dress. Don't let this ruin your special day.