Bringing Home Jack!

[Jennifer and Jack]

This past week I have proved to be stable enough to stay out of the hospital, at least for now, hopefully for a good long while. I was discharged on Wed but I kept Jack at my mom's house basically because she is a few hours a way each trip and my going home was contingent on me not spiking a fever. So far I have not spiked and I am doing quite well... ( Thank you God Please keep me doing well)

On Monday I am supposed to go to my moms and spend a few days and then I will be coming home. To stay alone with Jack..( and the nurses and nursing assistants that will come and go)

I have given so much thought about Jack. I love him so much and I like to believe that I love him unselfishly so that I would put his needs before my own.... otherwise I would have insisted he come home as soon as I was discharged from the hospital.

I have talked to my mom about keeping Jack... so that Jack and Molly can stay together. They are very attached to each other though Jack sleeps with my mom and Molly sleeps in her crate...They have such a good consistent routine going. Jack is eating and pooping great, going for walks and playing well. My mom loves him so much..I listen to her talk to him while I am on the phone and tears sting my eyes, she just loves him and adores him.. He is such a little charmer with his little kisses he gives and his pats with his paw. He is just so sweet.  I want him to be happy and in a stable home. Not where his life is always turned upside down.

My mom does not want to keep Jack, she refuses because she knows how much I love him and she thinks that I won't fight as hard if I don't have him here in my face reminding me that he needs me.

That isn't true..but try telling a stubborn women something.... I would know because I am one too.

Jack has been with my mom 10 weeks now..and during those 10 weeks, he has only been with me one night and during that night, the only way I got Jack to settle was to take Molly mat from her crate and put it on my bed, then he came and snuggled with me and stayed on the mat.

The next day I was admitted to the hospital and when he saw my mom again, he went ballistic and licked me like crazy.. He was so happy to be back with my mom.

My mom can not come back home with me and she can't just keep keeping Jack. So Monday, I will go to my moms for two nights. I can't be away longer then that because of doctors appointments and then Jack and I will come home.

Do you have any advice on what I can do to make his transition smoother and less troublesome to him? I would do anything for him, I adore him with my entire being. He knows my house obviously... He has all his toys and his things here. What should I do when I am at my moms, I know he will want to sleep with my mom, He always does no matter where we are... Should I let him or make him sleep with me?

How about once I bring him home? What can I do to make him feel safe and secure. I am pretty stable right now, I so hope I stay that way....

I am excited and I miss him horribly. I can't wait to have Mr Personality back in my arms.. Back to where it is just him and I.... I just want to do it the best possible way and I don't have experience with this.

There isn't any new medical equipment or anything that he will deal with, not that it bothered him before.....it is just readjusting back to not having Molly and my mom.. Also poor Molly, She has been with Jack literally almost the entire time my mom has had her... How do we help her adjust?

So many questions..... Thanks

[Jennifer and Jack]

That is the attitude I am going with! Why Jack whatever do you mean,??? You were at Grammies just for the weekend!!!! My spirits are good and I know you are right that will help!!!!

I just got him a fan for his car seat and window shades to keep him cool when we are in the car! I have kings and toys for him but most importantly...I have a heart full of love.


I so,pray my infection stays away and some normalcy comes my way!

[Bonnie and Kona]

I am so glad that you and Jack are going to be together again!

All I can say is that we have had many people live with us and our dogs go completely berserk when these dear friends come to visit... almost crawling in their laps for hugs and kisses. Also, my DS's dog lived with us for six weeks when they moved into the area 7 1/2 years ago. She practically turns herself inside out when we go over to their house AND when it is time for us to leave she follows us to the car and tries to get in. She loves her family... she just has lots and lots of love to share. It is wonderful that Jack adores your mother and Molly, but he knows he is your dog. You have been his DM for his whole life except for a few weeks now and then... There's no comparison. 

That's my two cents worth. ;o) 

[Bonnie and Kona]

PS: When we have spent the night at our DS's house (very seldom) their dog sleeps in the room we are sleeping in. I think Jack can sleep with your mom when your mom is around if he wants to.

[Jennifer and Jack]

Thanks Bonnie! Xoxo

[Laurie, Fudge, and Vern]

Jennifer, I think Jack will adjust fine and you can just plan more trips up to see your mom. As far as sleeping, I would let him sleep wherever he wants. Some nights, Fudge starts out with us, other nights in the foyer....same with Vern. He will figure it all out. I am so glad you are doing better and hope this is the start of something great for you :)

[Jennifer and Jack]

Thanks! I feel so blessed to get the chance to bring him home! I am grateful for every day I have here on earth!

I want more days...lots more! Here's to hoping this infection gets totally eradicated never to rear its head again!

[Jennifer and Jack]

And I mean ever never want to hear the word pan resistant again....just to be clear! Lol

[Becka]

Jennifer, you are an inspiration. Everyone who knows you is also grateful for every day you have, and I wish you many, many more. I agree with everyone who says don't worry too much about Jack--he is quite clearly in very good hands (and paws!) with your mom and Molly and with you.

[Jennifer and Jack]

How sweet Becka..I am so grateful my mom.loves Jack so much ad can step in, I realize how blessed I am to have that. When she was in Fla I always had to scramble to find a place that I approved of for him..

[Susan and Sasha]

I have to agree with Bonnie and Laurie...

I think that Jack will be fine and adjust to being away from your Mom and Molly.

Of course he will miss them...but...if you act fine....and not like he "wants to be with them and not you" etc....he will be just fine.

Your Mom is kind and loving...and it's great that Jack loves to be with her and Molly. When he needs to be ,he is in Great hands...but...he's your Jack...and he belongs with you when you are able to take care of him.

Try not to over think this Jenn....and just relax...and enjoy being with your boy...

I do understand your thoughts though...and I know you want what's best for Jack...

I just don't think you're at that point.

I love you...

[Jennifer and Jack]

Xoxoxo come over and bring me my Sasha girl!!!! I am in doodle and Susan withdrawal......glad you are home...now to stay home...xoxo

[Donna K & Quincy]

Glad to hear Jack will be soon coming home, I'm sure he will settle in nicely. Try not to stress about it, it will works itself out. I hope you continue to feel better every day.