Drama has caused me to choose a new necklace for my wedding dress..need help!

So the day I had picked out my wedding dress friend Jennifer and my Godmother came to try them on with me (since my mom and sister and grandmother live in Bermuda) and I found the perfect gown after trying on only 4 dresses (completely the opposite of what I had gone in for). When I was prancing around the store in the dress, my Godmother saw a necklace in their accessory case that might look nice with the gown so I tried it on and we ALLLLL loved it! Then when we asked how much it was ($400), I decided that was too scary of a price, but my Godmother insisted on buying it, saying it was her gift to me for my wedding day since it looked so perfect with the gown (this was the beginning of March 2011). In August (after my mom had been ill a couple months and stresses were high already, my Godmother decided to "have a stroke" as my mother really believes and go crazy for no reason at all. One day behind my back while she was talking to me about normal stuff, she called my fiance and told him I was selfish and told him all of these insane lies that I would never say or do (such as call her fat and tell her what she was allowed to eat and say awful things to her boyfriend [whom I like and got along with great)...NEVER in a million years would I dream of saying something like that to ANYONE, not even the nasty girls that bullied me in middle school and high school! I was going to ignore it thinking maybe she was just stressed about my mom being ill too and needed to vent and take something out on me because I was close, but then she started posting things on her facebook wall about me...I am no longer in high school and don't wish to go back to those days, so I asked her about what was going on and she told me that what she said was true (she was determined to believe this) and told me that I was going to regret doing what I did (didn't do anything) and basically told me to have a nice life and thanked me for ruining her 30 year friendship with my mom (which I again haven't and would never...). I cut communication with her because I wasn't going to argue and defend myself against things that never happened and thought it was completely inappropriate that she would call my fiance and say those things in the first place, but I have been respectful to her when it has come to my mom and give her updates when she has asked and whatnot...

Not thinking anything about my necklace, I didn't pick it up because the wedding store is far away and was just going to wait until it came in with my dress, so yesterday when I went to see my dress and get the flower girl fitted, I asked if I could have my necklace to try on with my dress and the girl came out and said "It is here (because they special ordered it) but the person that paid for it cancelled her credit card payment of it and wanted it "returned". So 6 months after she bought me a gift, she took it back and now I am stuck with the task of finding another perfect necklace! (My cousin offered her's but it is small and simple so just not as "statement-y" as I would like since the dress is so simple and it is strapless)

Here is a photo of the gown with the old perfect necklace (John never comes on here so he wont see this! lol)

and here are some choices I thought could be potentials from online:

http://www.etsy.com/listing/68727303/pearl-crystal-statement-weddin...

http://www.etsy.com/listing/78600935/wedding-necklace-bridal-jewelr...

http://www.etsy.com/listing/26821368/pearl-wedding-necklace-vintage...

http://www.etsy.com/listing/68231627/black-tie-bib-style-wedding-ne...

http://www.etsy.com/listing/89059154/bridal-necklace-pearl-necklace...

http://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_Crystal-and-Floral-Embellished-...

Oh and this is my cousin's wedding necklace:

Thanks in advance for any help and suggestions you have! I had to vent the story because I was so flustered yesterday when the visit to the wedding store brought all the drama back!

Clarification: My Godmother didn't legitimately/medically have a stroke...it is what my sick mother said when I told her how my Godmother was acting and the things she was saying about me...my mom is not in the same state of mind and she really believed that maybe my Godmother had a stroke at the time. I would have said she went "psycho (bad word)" but stroke was more polite. lol

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Permalink Reply by Diane and Alma on January 20, 2012 at 11:12am

Gorgeous picture. It looks like they had a perfect day.

Permalink Reply by Ginny Nightingale on January 19, 2012 at 5:05pm

Ok, so now I looked at the others--I guess you were thinking of keeping the flower motif going with the necklace, but I agree with the others that the necklace should be simple--a strand of pearls or your cousin's necklace get my vote. But is you want something "bling-ier" I would go with the first one on your list--"pearl-crystal-statement"--etc.

Now I am getting all excited about my daughter's wedding--but unfortunately, she is thrifty and practical to a fault and if she finds something that fits at Salvation Army, that might be what she wears!!

Permalink Reply by Jane, Rooney & Stuart on January 19, 2012 at 5:27pm

Katie - I'm too old to mince words - I think the Godmother's stroke did you a favor (sorry). You are one beautiful woman - that necklace was too thick and heavy - your dress is amazing so all if perfect there. It is you face that people want to notice. Get some fab earrings and let the whole necklace thing go, remember - less IS MORE. You are going to one stunning bride no matter what you decide!!!!!

Permalink Reply by F, Calla & Luca on January 19, 2012 at 6:19pm

I agree that the first one was too much and detracted from the dress.

Permalink Reply by Doris, Knox & Flash on January 19, 2012 at 9:21pm

Ditto!! Less is more with that fabulous dress!

Permalink Reply by BG and Gavin on January 19, 2012 at 5:57pm

Stunning dress, stunning you! I think your godmother is suffering from some time of mental illness. Try not to sweat it. Of the necklaces I like the first one in your orgianl post and the second one in your second post. I also like no necklace at all and some drop earings as suggested by Deanna (and her gorgeous daughter). Best wishes.

Permalink Reply by F, Calla & Luca on January 19, 2012 at 6:18pm

Older folks sometimes get delusional ideas and need to be ignored. A million years ago, my great aunt called when I was a teenager, and to make a long story short she was willing to forgive me if I returned her safe deposit box key. I had no way of getting it much less using it but so it goes. I'm sorry your godmother appears to have "lost it".

As to the necklace, I go for simple and like the dress for that reason. It's lovely. I also like your cousin's necklace best for the same reason : )

Permalink Reply by Nancie & Gracie Doodle on January 19, 2012 at 6:38pm

Katie...I agree that you should not wear a necklace but some very nice dangling earrings...I am very fond of pearls with wedding dresses. My daughter was strapless and had a very simple but elegant dress. She has a gorgeous smile and that was all that was necessary to make a beautiful bride. Keep the bouquet simple too. We made hers hours before the wedding with white roses from a NYC street vendor below her apartment. Nothing could be more perfect that day!!!

You look amazing in that dress and it is gorgeous. Perfect! If you do want to wear something around your neck I would go with a small strand of pearls but nothing heavy. I think the others are right...the original necklace was way too bulky and took away from the dress. My eyes went immediately to your neck and it should go right to your face! With all of us moms here, we can get you through this!