Hi everybody its Jared.The reason I left DK.

[Discussing Labradoodles & Goldendoodles]

Hi.Im sorry i left like I did but i just had to.I didnt think anybody would understand this or accept what i had to do.I had to Rehome Dakota.She developed Atopic Dermititis and i just dont have the money to treat her condition.I did everything at home that i could for her.All the things i learned on here.I wont get into that but i did it all.I was even thinking about moving to the desert just to keep her or taking a mortgage out on my house.Not possible.So i found a lady that makes 3 times the money that i do and all she wanted was a well trained,well behaved labradoodle and she didnt want a puppy.Dakota is perfect for her.I thought that i would do the suffering so Dakota didnt have to anymore.I keep in contact with the new owner about once a week.This is very hard on me as i love Dakota very much that why i did what i did.I didnt want to tell you guys because i know some of you would hate me for it.I couldnt and cant take much more stress.Im still getting my new puppy with mixed emotions about the whole thing but i have to remember that the puppy didnt do anything wrong and he doesnt know what ive been through lately and i should not bring any bagage into this new chapter of my life with my new puppy.I will always miss Ozzy and Dakota but i have to put that aside for my new life.Thank you for caring you guys.If you have something negitive to say about all this please dont do it.Thanks. 

[AndySharon BoomerShaynaMariner]

Jared - thanks for sharing.  We are all just concerned about your well being.  You did the unselfish thing in rehoming Dakota so she could have a better life.

 

We are all here for you!!!

[Donna K & Quincy]

Jared you have had a tough time these last few months. I hope Dakota is happy in her new home and gets all the care she needs. It is good that you can keep in touch with her. Good luck, hope things go better for you from here on.

[William]

Hey bud, I'm just really glad to know that you are alright. Many times life takes us on unforseen twist & turns, "I have no doubt that you loved both Ozzy and Dakota". Keep your head up and know that you are well thought about up here in chilly northern Michigan!

[F, Calla & Luca]

Jared, I for one am glad you are OK. Sometimes you have do do what you have to do. At least you found Dakota a good home. Be well and rejoin us if you'd like.

[Suzanne & Jack]

The most important thing is that you did an unselfish thing and found Dakota a good home that would be able to provide the care needed. Sometimes life throws you a curve ball. Good luck with your new pup.

[Jennifer and Jack]

I am glad you are okay. I am glad your dog is in a place where he can be cared for. Lord knows no body can fault you if you don't have the money to take care of the dog.. I would sincerely encourage you to look into health insurance if you are bringing home another puppy so you don't have to go through such heart ache again and neither will the puppy.

I hope you do rejoin us.. \

[Deanna & Desi & Cori]

Jared,

I'm glad you took the time to share with us why you left DK.  As you know by now, we were all wondering where you'd gone and were worried about you.  I kind of understand your fears about telling people that you'd found it necessary to rehome Dakota.  We've had a few heated discussions lately about people giving up too easily and "dumping" their doodles.  However, that's NOT your situation at all.  Your love for Dakota is obvious - we could see that in all your posts.  You didn't "give up" on her.  As others have said, you did the unselfish thing in making sure that Dakota had a loving home that had the resources to help her condition in a way that you couldn't.  No one thinks poorly of you, Jared.  I'm sorry that you're having to go through a tough time right now and I know that I, for one, hope you hang around DK.  When you're having a tough time, that's when you need friends - and a good laugh or two - and you can get both on DK!!!

[Bill Keefe]

Don't know you, but think what you did was courageous and probably one of the toughest things a person has to do - losing a loved one. Wish you the best with your new pup.

[Maryann,Roo and Tigger]

Jared you did the best you could for Dakota and  I am certain she will be happy in her new home.  If my daughter had Roo, who developed Addison's disease at over four years old, she would not be able to afford the ongoing expense.  Addison's is completely treatable, but is quite expensive.  She would have been in the same place you were, so I totally understand.

We all have to make difficult decisions and compromises.  In the circumstance, it sounds like you made a smart, loving, unselfish and careful decision.   There will always be people to criticize and second guess you.  You are the final judge of what you did, accept it, learn from it, and move on.

Pet insurance is probably a good idea.

Thank you for having the courage to share your decision.

 

 

 

 

 

[Joanne ~ Spud*]

•

[Nancy, Ned, Clancy, and Charlie]

Jared,  I understand that there is a point past what one can do for their pet, but if I reached that point I would be really leery of re-committing to another pet, and fearful that I would find myself in the same situation all over again. Are we supposed to feel badly for you and then happy that you get another doodle?   I just can't. I could tell that you adored Ozzie, but you never bonded with Dakota - it came through loud and clear in all your posts. Anyway, aren't you supposed to be allergic to dogs?  Why in the world would you get another when you didn't keep the one you had?  If times get tough again what will you do?   My advice is to get a pet that doesn't need such a financial or emotional commitment - like fish, turtles, iguanas etc. 

[Nancy, Ned, Clancy, and Charlie]

You know, Jared, lots of us do NOT have it easy and perfect but the grass is always greener......  I just hope you can make a stronger commitment to your next pet.  Your story about Dakota's new happily ever after life is just to make you feel better.  Perhaps it is true, perhaps not.  You did blame Dakota for your allergies and wanted to re-home her then as I remember.  You also wanted to re-home her when she didn't behave like you wanted her to.  So, in my opinion, you never really bonded to her and finally followed through with your threats to find another home for her.

When one posts asking questions about their dog, they are asking for opinions and suggestions.  This time  when you posted you didn't ask for opinions, but you wanted validation for your actions and I can't give you that.  Not all of us are going to agree with you, but most who agree with me have been too polite to post.  Oh well, feel free to discount a dissenting  opinion. Perhaps Dakota is better off in a new home after all. Getting another puppy is where I really disagree. How can you afford a new dog when you couldn't manage the old one? Even with pet insurance, pets are expensive and many illnesses are not covered. I still urge you to get pets that are fun to watch but don't pine for you when you give them away.