Sad and Happy

[Jennifer and Jack]

I don't know if this is even the right place to post this but since the reason for it is Jack I guess it is okay.  My health has just been horrible lately and I have not been able to take Jack for his long walks. We always walk miles a day, we stop and greet people, other dogs and play and sniff. Since November I have not been able to do this

I don't care for me but I care for Jack.. I love it so much, it makes me so sad that I couldn't do it. One of my friends recommended a long time ago to get a motor scooter like what I use in the stores so I could walk him.

 

I resisted so much the idea because I kept thinking I was going to get better but I just am not.. So I went ahead and ordered a scooter. It will be here today. I should be so happy because I want so badly to take Jack out, to go on our trails to walk and to play but I don't know if I can get past the humilation of a 38 year old women riding around in one..

 

I am trying to work my nerve up to do it. Jack deserves a walk and I deserve to enjoy  the pleasure of seeing him walk.

 

I just feel sad that my life has come to this. Hopefully it won't last and I will get better quickly... Now you know how much I love my baby.. I would rather eat poop than draw that kind of attention to myself.

 

wish us luck... we are going to go walking../riding

[Jane, Rooney & Stuart]

Jennifer - once again - I apologize for hurting your feelings - that was NOT my intention.  You made this public so now I apologize in public - now can you just let it go. 

[Camilla and Darwin]

I don't think that anyone was trying to excuse insensitive actions.

I think it's that those of us who know Jane know that she is a kind person who wouldn't intentionally hurt someone. Knowing that, I can assume that her intentions were good and she didn't mean it in a malicious way. You said yourself that you don't know her well, but some of us do. 

She came on and admitted that it was her after all. And she apologized to you about hurting your feelings. I do understand how upsetting it might be to read something like that, but I don't think that she was intentionally being insensitive or rude. 

DK is a friendly place where we usually all get along. Sure, not everyone sees eye to eye 100% of the time but I think that is inevitable with a group this large. And eventually we all laugh it off.

:-)

I hope you don't feel that I'm being insensitive to your feelings. I understand how hurt you must have felt. I just felt the need to defend Jane, because I believe she is a kind person who wouldn't have sent the message to you with mean intentions.

[Jennifer and Jack]

You are sweet it is all good, I just didn't understand, all is good thanks for being so sweet

[F, Calla & Luca]

I have been thinking that there have been an overabundance of posts by you Jennifer as well, so Jane is not alone. I have not said or done anything about it but I do want to support Jane. I have not in any way discussed this with Jane. I think it was kind that she contacted you privately and then admitted it when you, Jennifer, made it a public issue. This site is not about polarizing people or being unkind. I have in fact written about this long ago. Civility--Be Nice

However, it is not a good thing, I think, for one person or topic to dominate the front page. If one person posts a lot, all other discussions "disappear" quickly, as you yourself noted, Jennifer, when you posted a discussion asking about one of your recent, prior discussions. It is also not a good idea, it seems to me, to post numerous discussions, in a short period of time about what is essentially the same topic or perhaps not a general interest topic. Those updates could be added to the original discussion.

I am very glad that you have your Jack to comfort you Jennifer. But Calla turned two in January and I don't think I needed to do more than celebrate quietly. Luca will be three next week and again I don't think it's a major public interest topic. Many people do post blogs about personal news both good and bad, and that is fine. Perhaps it would be a good idea to start a group for people interested in sharing stories about how their doodles have been a support during chronic illness or other difficulties. Or maybe a personal blog whose address you could share with your friends. I know not everyone on DK shares my interests so I have started groups relating to those. We all need to coexist here on DK. I do not think either of you, Jane or Jennifer, are wrong or that any feelings were meant to be hurt not do I wish to hurt anyone's feelings either. But there may be better ways to do things.

[Jennifer and Jack]

Thank you F for at least explaining to me what you were talking about. I just didn't understand and that was part of why I was confused. I didn't mean to write so many posts, That is a great idea to put them more under one post instead of starting a new one. I didn't think of that... This way other people's posts won't get bumped, I assure you that was not my intention.

 

As far as Jack's birthday.. I will be celebrating again next year, You not celebrating your dogs birthday is not any different right or wrong then me having an all out party.. which by the way I will do again.. and bigger next year and raise more money then I did this past year. We had close to 15 donations on here alone for his birthday to DRC and I personally raised enough money at his party to buy several bags of Orijen food for a local shelter, What harm is that?

 

I will try to keep it to one post.. I liked how it turned out, we had a lot of people donate to DRC in his honor. . If it is your desire not to do a big deal for your dogs birthday I respect that totally and thanks for respecting mine. I won't go into a sob story about my life, but Jack has fulfilled a lot of things for me.. so every holiday will be a big deal, again I will keep it to one post and less stuff. Every day I have that dog in my life, I will celebrate, enjoy him and thank God for him. If you want to read along, I welcome you too.

 

I totally understand and respect what you are saying about posting so many different discussions. I didn't realize it and I apologize.... Thank you for pointing that out to me. I am newer on here and still learning the ropes, so those of you who have been around a while who can be polite about it point things out, I appreciate it. I actually do like to get along with people and am usually pretty good at it

 

I think my biggest fault in my life is I get so excited about things.... I was so excited to find this website, so excited to find other people who love their dogs like me. My posts have not been about chronic or terminal illnesses, they have been about Jack, and how Jack has turned my life around. I said it before and I will say it again, I pray you never know what it is like to walk the shoes of someone that has to walk a path that is incredible hard.. I am grateful for every day..

 

Lets please drop this and move forward, feel free not to read my posts or read if you want and I will do better about keeping them to one topic page.

 

 

 

[Joanne ~ Spud*]

Jennifer,

I support Jane and F.   I don't think F. was talking about Birthdays but rather using that as an example for over doing it everyday.

Here is my example. Different from F. and Jane but I'll admit, I felt overwhelmed by the postings also some days.   I know you have a lot to endure.  Certainly, I would not want to walk in your shoes. You may not want to walk in mine either.  Many of us here have serious problems in our lives.  Same as you, just different problems.   When you are here for awhile you may even feel better about your illness because you may not be going through the tragedy another DK member is going through.     I believe many of us come here to escape the long days and the wicked world.    Yes, escape the sickness, the unemployment, the poverty, the death,  .............you name it, we all have problems.   Ya, some days we post about them.  We feel we can share here.  It is safe. Writing and sharing is great therapy.  Laughing and Doodles make us all smile.    Take it easy.

Let's all lighten up.  That includes lightening up of excessive  topics.   

And the Scooter, it is charming.  I like it  :)    Please be careful and do not run over the dog  [ laugh ]

I ran over Spud when I tried to ride a bike with him  <--I did.  Oww

[Jennifer and Jack]

 Very true, , very true, one never knows what one is dealing with, this is all just brand spankign new for me so that it why it is in the forefront of my brain I actually did just walk Jack and my stupid battery died, that was a fun phone call to make in the middle of the night,, Good thing for good friends...

I talk a lot in real life too, a real lot, so I am not surprised I talk a lot on here, at least I am consistent,

[F, Calla & Luca]

Good, I'm glad that this is all OK. I know we are different and all do things differently. The only important thing is to work things out and to tolerate differences.I hope you are feeling better soon and that you continue to enjoy life with Jack. I do think our doodles help us all in many ways.

[Jennifer and Jack]

Thank you, so much for explaining  to me , these days my emotions are on me sleeve which stinks.

[Jennifer and Jack]

Well I had no way of knowing this, someone should write these things down. How is a new person supposed to know where things go? I am being serious? I would love to follow the rules but I didn't see any anywhere, I was told to jump right in and that is what I did, I am sorry I got it all backwards.

 

I came here because I am a total doodle lover, and a lover or people, I didn't know I did anything wrong,

[F, Calla & Luca]

Adina has written many things down, all under Help. Not a matter of wrong, there are just better ways sometimes. So happy reading!

[Doris]

Jennifer - keep posting!  I enjoy your posts and if there are dk members who don't, no one is forcing them to read them.  I loved seeing Jack on your scooter.  Smile, have fun and enjoy the outside with Jack!!