Off Topic Frustration

[Phoebe's Mom]

Just back from a long walk with Phoebe on a glorious day--76 degrees, blue skies and sunny--but instead of enjoying it all I can obsess about is the fact that my husband has been unemployed since January (for the second time in two years), knocking himself out with networking and sending resumes, all with nothing to show for it. Phoebe keeps me going through the day though I know by now she is sick and tired of listening to me drone on and on about our situation. Sometimes she looks at me with those gorgeous green eyes of hers as if to say 'I get it so could you please be quiet for a while?" Once I pick up all my children from school it is a tad easier to 'forget' about our situation but some days are truly longer than others. Thanks for listening.

[Allyson, Peri & Taquito]

Ditto on it being harder on the men - I had a good evaluation last week and felt weird going home and telling DH because I didn't want to hurt his pride. Phoebe thanks for bringing up the discussion because it has allowed me to vent a little also!
Support is here - don't you just love DK???

[Phoebe's Mom]

Thanks guys, I knew I could count on you all for support. I truly appreciate it. Frannie, my husband practically lives on linkedin.com. Sometimes I think that is his new job. He also works with an outplacement service and networks like a madman. Two years ago we were in the same boat and he found the job here in MN--they relocated us from CT only to let him go 22 months later. To say we are devasted and angry is an undertsantement. I hate hearing that other doodlekisses members are suffering the same plight but it is good to know that someone understands the frustration and the fears. Thanks to all of you for the support. I really need it today!

[Frannie & Callie]

Please do vent! The job market is scary and frustrating right now. I have a job today but don't necessarily feel confident that I'll have one next week. There are lots of people in my same boat, and in the same boat as yours and Allyson's husbands (also Camilla and her husband), so this is a pretty good place to talk about it (and even with helping support DK, still wayyyy cheaper than therapy!)
Is your husband on Linkedin.com? It's a wonderful networking site.
Along with the financial side, it's emotionally grueling to be unemployed for so long, and to cohabitate with someone who is unemployed and wants to work. I think it is especially hard on men because no matter how modern our relationships might be, many men gauge still their self worth on their careers and ability to make money. I'm glad you have sweet Phoebe and your kids - I know that they are huge bolster for both of y'all!

[Lucy & AnnaBelle's Mom]

Maybe we need to start an off topic group for "Employment Needed" . There are 3 of you right here that are looking for work. You just never know when someone else in your area might know about something. I think that in this employment market that Networking is the most important thing that anyone can do. My Brother-in-law just went back to work after being laid off for 18 months. They are a paycheck to paycheck family and my sister has MS ..... health insurance is very important to them. Fortunately she was working a job that would just about pay her insurance payments at least. Anyway to make a long story short the job he ended up with he got by word of mouth because his Brother-in-law said something to someone .... the job wasn't even posted. All anyone would really have to do is post the city and type work they are looking for. If someone in that area knew of something they could contact you and everything from that point on could be personal e-mailed until of course the "success story" and then we would want that posted. Just a thought! The worst that can happen is nothing. In the meantime feel free to vent anytime you like! I do find it makes one feel better.

[Jane, Guinness and Murphy]

I wish I could help more....but you can vent to us ANYTIME! I'm forever "venting" to my Doods about one thing or another. I think DH is glad they're here....otherwise it would be him.

[Allyson, Peri & Taquito]

It's nice to have a dog to talk to and vent - even though we may look crazy while doing it. I am sorry you are going through this. My husband is in the same boat - he was a contract attorney for a while, but budget cuts ended it early. Not a good time in the economy - you are not alone in your frustrations, believe me! Glad we can all vent on DK!!!!

[Camilla and Darwin]

Doodles are always good for a fuzzy shoulder to cry on, aren't they? I am sorry about the situation your family is going through. My husband and I are having a hard time finding jobs too... it's frustrating!