So sick of cleaning up pee.

[Lindsey & Cocoa]

Cocoa is for the most part potty trained.  But if she gets excited she will pee all over. I was told they outgrow this phase.  But i am afraid my husband started a new Pee issue that she will never outgrow and I am sick of cleaning up pee.

Last month I left for a week to vacation with my parents. I am almost positive that my husband has been "spanking" the dog.  We do give her swats on the nose for biting us but that's all I will do (yes I tried the grabbing her mouth thing and she would just come back and bit harder thinking it was a game).  But I have a feeling when I was not here he took it farther than that.  Every time I called to check in all he did was complain about the dog. He thinks pets and kids need this and there is no other way to disipline and we are always fighting over this.  Well ever since I have come home if I try to pick Cocoa up to put her outside or in her cage when she is running from me, as soon as I touch her she drops down and pees. If I am doing laundry and drop a sock or something and chase her down to get it back when I get close to her she drops down and pees.

I am so sick of cleaning up pee. I have to put the dog in her cage every time my daughter eats or has a snack because she will sneak the dog food and we are already dealing with poo food issues. So this is happening about 2-5 times a day.  I try to trick her to go potty and put her outside but if I try to put her in the cage its pee time.  I am still watching her poo with new food or I would use treats to get her to go in the cage.  Heck its been over a week on the new food maybe I will just go ahead and use treats for this?  But then I will still have to deal with it when she steals the kids toys or laundry.

I just needed to vent and maybe beat the crap out of my husband.

They say they outgrown excited pee but do they ever outgrow fear pee?   None of my other dogs ever did this.

[Lindsey & Cocoa]

My only problem with this is she is pretty much potty trained. She goes to the door to let us know she needs to pee and poop.  The ONLY time she is now peeing in the house is when you go to pick her up, take something that she is not supposed to have from her ect.  She is not just going off and peeing.

I have been walking on egg shells with her all day and she has done it still 4 times with me. This morning I wanted her in her cage so I went up to her and pet her and all was well... as soon as I put my arms under her to pick her up BAM she peed.  This afternoon I was doing laundry and dropped a sock and she grabbed it and ran and as soon as i just stepped near her asking her to drop it she squatted and peed.  Both times she had just been outside and use the bathroom. Later in the day It was time to take my daughter to school so I took cocoa outside she pottied and I brought her back in grabbed her leash bent down to snap it on and BAM she squatted and peed again.  

 

She is confined to one room our Family room & kitchen is all one big room and she is blocked from the rest of the house. The only bad thing is its half carpet but there is no way to block it off.

[Lindsey & Cocoa]

My other question is she does is when I approch her if it was a fear of him would she still be doing this with me?  I dont spank her. 

She does the excited pee with me if I have been gone all day or weekend and I have to take her outside before I look or talk to her.  But now she has started it with me when she is being bad.

 

We played with her tonight for a little while i was typing and my husband yelled at her and went at her fast to pick her up (she was not doing anything wrong at the time) and she did not pee.  But 45 minutes earlier I let her in from outside and she snuck a stick in and we approched her to get the stick and she peed.

So do they know they are being bad and that is why they are doing it? 

 

 

I will join the training board but I have pretty much been told once they start this submisive peeing from being in troulble not just happy to see you that its a thing for life and you are stuck with it.  I just dont know if I can be srubbing my floors and carpet cleaning 5-6 times a day for the rest of her life.

 

Im going to keep the this too shall pass attitude and keep working on my husband and hope things turn around.

Its been a up hill battle from day one with this little girl from 2 months of very watery runny poops to now this once we got that other problem cleared up.

[Donna K & Quincy]

Here is a link to a website that will give you more info. Good luck, it will get better.

http://pets.webmd.com/dogs/submissive-urination?page=3

 

[Lindsey & Cocoa]

thanks I will look over this.  I just have no idea where to start.  My last dogs were yorkies seemed much easier. Not sure if its the size difference or just because I was use to an old dog and now Im back in the puppy stage.

[Adina P]

It does not have to be this way forever, but she is being overly submissive and does need a new way to respond to you. BEST done via obedience training. But if I were 7 months pregnant I'd not get too far with it before I had to stop. I'm 6 months post partum and I still haven't had time to finish my youngest doodle's training. I quit about 8 months pregnant when I just got winded too easily with quick walking and the physical aspects of training. But I don't have grandparents nearby. If your inlaws can help with the kids then take that time as soon as you are able to spend 30 min in training with cocoa 5-6 days a week.

But why do you pick her up all the time to crate her, etc? Teach her to walk in to her crate on command. Ask for tips in the training group. Even if she isn't heavy, that is not something you should have to do. There are books on training, videos, dvd's, etc. Doesn't have to be expensive. The training group can help you. She NEEDS Obedience badly and spot fixing the pee issue won't help you turn her into a well behaved family member.

[Lindsey & Cocoa]

Oh yeah winded is where I am.  I am going to try doing the leash thing with her but she keeps chewing the leashes up. I am working with her on that part right now and got bitter spray and it was like I sprayed water on it, no luck.

I have about 5-7ish weeks until the baby gets here (im 33 weeks right now). I was hoping 4 months would have been long enough to get her to a good point before the baby got here but its not looking that way.  I do not want to give up on her and I think its good for kids to be around animals.

We were battling what we thought was Giardia for the first 2 months so that really slowed things way down. Now that we know its a food issue.

 

I pick her up and take her close to the cage and say "go to bed" 50% of the time she will walk in and the other 50% she will wiggle away from me and take off behind me.  When I want her to go outside I just say "lets go potty" and 90% of the time she will run to the door and go out. 

 

We have not been allowed to give her treats until just yesterday so since yesterday afternoon I grab a treat and tell her to go to bed and toss it in and she goes right in now.  Training has been really slow because we could not treat her and for half the time she was on a wet food so I could not even use kibble.

 

I am feeling better today I think I was just having a really bad hormonal day... my 4yr old was being HORRIBLE and that in turn was making it hard with the dog because she kept letting the dog into the area of the house she is not allowed and I had no treats of way to get her back and then I was scared to grab her that she would pee in there.

 

This morning I left the dog out while my daughter ate and I sat there the whole time and was giving her the "Down" command when she was jumping on her chair and she was doing it almost every time I asked. 

 

So you are saying the reason she is peeing is because she needs to have obedience?

[Adina P]

You certainly had a lot working against you from the start.  I'm sorry it's been so tough -- puppies are tough but it should not be as bad as you had with giardia, etc.  So you are pretty tough yourself to stick to it =)

I didn't mean that the reason she is peeing is that she's untrained...but that training would fix that and a load of other issues.  The tough part with puppies is that the early training usually is just to make them handleable and to help them potty in the right places...it's the 6 month on training that truly makes them dogs you an live with, that don't pull your arm off when walking them, come when called, etc.

[Angel Schilling-Putnam]

I am so very sorry to be so blunt....but personally I do not think this is a good addition for you or Cocoa right now. You did not choose to have a dog now, Cocoa was an unplanned gift. It sounds as if you have a lot on your plate currently and I would assume with another child on the way, that doggy training was not in your plans. This does not make you or your husband "bad". Perhaps it would be best for all parties involved if you considered giving Cocoa up for adoption via doodle kisses? I can't imagine how things will be when you also have an infant on board.

[Lindsey & Cocoa]

I really want to keep trying I have had her for 9 weeks and already attached.  I had a yorkie that passes away last August so I am use to having a dog around but he was 8. Its just an adjustment going from an older lazy dog to a puppy.

If we decide not to keep her we signed a contract with the breeder that we must return her.  Im sure we lose all the money if that happens though.

[Lucy & AnnaBelle's Mom]

The only thing that I can think of here that I didn't see mentioned was have you tried trading her something that she loves when she has something that she shouldn't.  Does she have a favorite chew toy or stuffed toy.  Or go the treat route and find what really gets her excited.  When she has something that you don't want her to have, tell her to "drop it" and give her the toy or treat! 

[Lindsey & Cocoa]

This is a really great Idea.  No I typically just take away whay she took and thats that.  Yesterday we have finally been allowed to give her treats after 9 weeks of having her.   I will treat her when she does good and drops it right away.   On the food group they recomned a very low calorie treat that she can have. It was hard to find fish as the main ingerdiant in treats.

[Lucy & AnnaBelle's Mom]

Wow, it is 6:30 in the morning and I'm sitting here reading your post and the only thing I can think is this has disaster written all over it. I don't say that to be unkind as I can see that you are trying and doing what you know how to do.  Sadly, the timing for this whole "gift" was just really bad.  There are so many other issues here besides the pee issue.    A toddler and a newborn coming very soon.  You and your husband don't agree on discipline.  You can train until you are blue in the face but if your DH doesn't adopt the same methods you are going to be fighting an uphill battle.  Poor Cocoa is going to be so confused he isn't going to know what to do.  In all seriousness, if you don't get an obedience plan together and soon, you are going to have a whole different mess on your hands as Cocoa is just going to get bigger and bigger.   Having a standard sized Doodle is very different when you have children in the house than having a small Yorkie.  I read where you got the Doodle because the Yorkies were just too small around the Toddler.  However, the Doodle is going to be just the opposite problem if someone isn't able to get the Doodle in an obedience program where everyone is on board.   A 50-80 lb Doodle and newborns and Toddlers don't mix unless you have a well behaved, trained doodle!    As I sit here rereading my post, I'm at a loss.   Even if you can find the time and the money to get into obedience classes, I'm not sure how you fix your DH to get him on board with positive reinforcement vs his "old school" methods.  This whole story just honestly breaks my heart, for you and for Cocoa!