New puppy mom syndrome, or just a Doodle snob?

[Karen & Maple]

So, new puppy (born last week) comes home end of December (excited would be an understatement). Friends and family also very excited.
In fact, my sister in law who lives half way between us and the breeder (about 4 hrs north of Boston), made the suggestion that they join us for the pick up so that they 'can all takes turns holding the puppy!'
So I'm thinking 'ahh, no way', but don't no if I'm being unbalanced, and didn't say much of anything except 'maybe'. I've played out this happy day in my mind: my husband and I finally get the dog of our dreams, puppy is SAFELY in his/her crate. We keep it relaxed as we bond and listen to Caesar on audio. But imagining five of us (including their 10 yr old hyper son) crammed in with my new baby floating around all these strangers, out of the crate- makes me feel anxious. I think I have say no, but don't know how.
My other sis in law insisting that she give us a 'puppy shower when get home so that they can "play with it and dress it up and give it treats!" Once again, thanks but no thanks? I wanted to spend about a week just us, bonding, training and getting comfortable. Even then, is this a good idea? And they have a dog. In fact, most of our family and friends have dogs. What about exposure to them? Help.

[Janie, Jackson and Jilly]

You stick to your guns and do what is right for the new puppy! Calm, loving bonding time for the puppy with you and your husband. That's what Moms are for!!

[Donna Bay & Buzz]

WOW! do you have human children yet? I'm just say'in. You better get these (well meaning) folks under control. Blame your breeder. Tell them your breeder said you need to wait "x" amount of time. Or whatever. Enjoy your peaceful bonding time. There is plenty of time for the shower later on.

[Bonnie and Kona]

I like the breeder to blame. I was going to suggest that you could blame Doodlekisses but the breeder will sounds more credible. 

I'm so excited for you to get that sweet puppy and begin to get to know him. We (and all of your relatives) will enjoy him vicariously through photos. ;o)

[Karen & Maple]

Ok, got it. Thanks for the confidence boost. Hate when I let others make me temporally doubt my instint. Even though I tell others not to let that happen, it still sometimes happens to me. I know what I need to do, sometimes it just helps to get perspective. Counting the days, not gonna let others spoil it. Let you know how it goes.

[Rosemary (Ro) and Enzo]

Karen...I sooo agree with all!  This is YOUR time to be with your new furkid.  Explain to SIL, you'd rather bring the newbie home and get him/her settled all in, before the visitors start and YOU WILL LET HER KNOW when that time comes.  The last thing your new puppy needs, on coming home day, is 100 people taking turns holding it and passing it around. 

  Good luck with the newbie and remember to post pics!