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Hello, I hope this is ok. I am not sure if people want to read about my worries.

I am a very proud mum of Marley a choc F2. He has been my life since my dad passed away earlier this year and i am worried because on the run up to christmas i am feelind sad sometimes and i think he can sense it. I try really really hard to not let it show but at times i must admit i have cried. I am worried i will imprint these bad times on him and do not want to affect him.

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Oh what a difficult part of life. I am so glad you have Marley to accompany you through your grief. Please, please, feel free to cry in front of Marley. Just hug him and mash your face into his fur and cry. I was brought up in a don't cry house as was my husband. But crying in a natural reaction to strong emotion and is actually theraputic. The great thing about dogs is that they don't mind at all if you cry. I spent many many hours walking my dogs with tears running down my face after my dad died - tears are leaking out even as I type this, for my dad and for the pain I know you feel. Marley's job is to share your emotions, honor him by sharing your sadness as well as the joys that lie ahead.

Peace be with you.
I've related this story before here on DK, but I think it bears repeating. My father died this past June. My daughter, my brother, and I were with him in the hospital when he passed. After we'd said our final "good-byes", my brother and I walked the short distance from the hospital to our childhood home. Of course, we were terribly sad and grieving. When we arrived home, we were both greeted by Sedona - wagging her tail furiously and jumping up to give us kisses. She brought wonderful (and very needed) comfort at that moment. I'd like to think it was Dad's way of telling us he was alright!

Welcome Marley's support and love!
Okay, this is making me all teary eyed!! But what you say is SO true!! Think of how different your experience would have been without Sedona!!! :( We are so lucky to have these loving doods!!
Anne, does your local mall allow walking/dog walking in the morning during the winter months? My friend used to do that with her dog when she lived in a cold climate. I guess they opened up the main area of the mall early in the AM before the shops opened. I know it sounds strange, but walking is such a wonderful thing for your spirit and for Marley's as well that it would be such a nice thing for both of you to do.

Hmmm, I wonder how they dealt with "clean up"...

Anyway - others have expressed this far more eloquently than I can, but let Marley comfort you. I suspect that it would be much easier (cause less stress) for him to deal with your true emotions than for both of you to deal with something that you are holding back (lest he perceive it is something associated with him). Animals are in tune with what we feel more than they are with what we say so I don't think shielding him will do anything more than confuse him. Sorrow over a loss is an issue that dogs face, too (being pack animals). He will understand in his own way.

Take care of yourself - and let yourself grieve.
Anne, I too am going through a loss this Christmas. My grandfather passed away this summer and it will be my first without him. Clifford was a great source of comfort for me when he passed as I know he will be through this difficult holiday. Our doodles love us unconditionally and want to please us, let Marley do what he wants to do by bringing you comfort in this sad time. Talk to Marley and let him kiss away your tears.

An added benefit of having a doodle in the family is Doodlekisses.com - please always feel that you can "talk" to us, as fellow doodle lovers we are all a family and we want to be there for you when you are sad or happy.

Merry Christmas from Kim, Clifford, Little Dood and all the friends you've just met with your post.
Here is a link to a blog I did last winter. I discovered a great product to wear on my boots for walking in icy conditions. Nothing can keep us off the streets now!
http://www.doodlekisses.com/profiles/blogs/winter-walking-wipeouts
I have tears streaming down my face. I lost my dad 11 years ago, a few months before Christmas (I was 19). It was a very difficult time, as my Dad was very big into Christmas and he and I always decorated the tree together.

You will never forget, you will often be reminded of your Dad at odd times, and certain things will always bring tears to your eyes, but it does get easier....

Let Marley comfort you in your times of sadness - it will strengthen your bond, and help you feel better. Let the tears flow, it helps :)
I am so sorry for your loss. You are very lucky to have a Doodle in your life. They are angels with fur. My Chester is a Therapy Dog who spends his time at the local hospital comforting patients. We recently visited with a woman who had just received a terminal diagnosis. Her husband had passed away last summer and her son lives in California and was unable to come back to New York. Chester went to her and put his head in her lap and stayed there for 20 minutes as she cried. It was very touching, and I was honored to be a Doodle owner. When we went home Chester was exhausted, but he still loves his job. Allow Marley to comfort you. It will strengthen your bond. You are not alone. All of us at DK share a bond in our love of our dogs. I will be thinking of you.
I am so sorry to hear about your dad. It is still very new, and this will the first Holiday without him for you~ That is really hard.... I think our dogs are very sensitive to our emotions and state of mind. But it is OK for Marley to sense that and probably he will want to be near you and comfor you....It is not a negative things. And for you to cry and be sad is not a bad thing. If you didn't, then it can affect you later on and affect you with greater magnitude. Grieving process is very very important and healthy process. May be you and your husband, along with Marley can spend time sharing some of your wonderful Christmas memories of your dad, or even write a Christmas card for your dad and write your thoughts and feelings and pretend to mail it to heaven.....We will be thinking of you and hope that you, your family and Marley will have a warm Holiday....
He loves you and wants to comfort you. That is a wonderful trait in a dog and should be encouraged. Just enjoy the comfort it brings you.

Last year we got Achilles in September, My mom had been ill but nothing serious. Around Thanksgiving she got very ill. She died Dec. 28th. He was very young so I thought the same thing. All turned out fine nothing was imprinted on him. He showed us he had a very sensitive side by being very cuddly. As I approach the year anniversary I am finding myself very sad as well. Achilles has been a shoulder to cry on. Marley will be fine. He probably can sense it but let him cuddle you. You would be amazed how much it helps.

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