AFRAID OF DOGS

[Cathy C. Bennett]

Dee and I met in church. Over the years we’ve had occasional telephone calls, stolen moments between services, and random infrequent emails.

When I started blogging Dee was one of our first subscribers outside of my immediate family. She is a very busy lady; Minister, Grad Student, Professional Career, etc… To know that she was actively engaged in my blog posts humbled me. She took the time to keep up with our stories!

I was without words a few weeks ago when Dee informed me she had yet to meet them up close in the flesh and the fur! Surely this couldn’t be true – The Boys have been frequent attendees to numerous church events.

This terrible oversight had to be rectified immediately. I insisted she come over for dinner. I figured this way she could finally meet and play with The Boys.

She accepted, and our dinner date was set!

When the door bell rang the three of us went to the door. We all have our roles:

• I open the door
• Harley is the resident greeter, barking out a furrendly hello song
• Leo brings the toys to show how happy he is that you’ve come over to his house

Sometimes people are a little overwhelmed when they see ALL of us there at once, but they adjust. HOWEVER – this time it was I who was a little surprised when my good friend Dee sprang this one on me while standing on the other side of the glass door:

Well – no, I didn’t.

Not to worry: 1 – 2 – 3 REGROUP

Although she looked calm, she still held a death grip on my door handle. As I tried to push the door open, she adamantly kept it closed.

“They didn’t look this big on the website” she kept repeating as Harley continued his well rehearsed welcome and Leo waited with his toy dangling from his mouth.

I don’t have an enormous degree of experience with people who confess “I’m afraid of dogs”while standing at my front door. Little did I know I wouldn’t really need to do much, short of recognizing the fear was real and allowing Dee to proceed at her own pace. Harley was going to do the rest.

I waited until she was comfortable and ready to enter. As she stepped into the house I reassured her she was safe, and these two doodles would not harm her at all.

When any guest arrives and initially seems intimidated by their size, we introduce the Caesar Millan’s “no touch, no talk, no eye contact” technique. Harley is familiar with this exercise, and has learned to give our guests some “space.” This worked for Dee and once inside, she quickly sort safety at the kitchen counter…

I figured sitting up high would give her a sense of additional distance

We talked a little bit about her uneasiness around dogs, where she believed her fear came from, and then I quickly changed the subject. I wanted her to share but not fixate on the subject. I thought if we focused on something else, she would be able to relax a bit.

It worked! Before long Dee had moved to the couch, and we were lounging in the family room. I had to chuckle because she stopped in mid sentence when Harley moved over and laid down almost “on” her feet…

She looks like she’s stopped breathing doesn’t she?

Normally a person ALREADY uncomfortable with dogs would have passed out, but before I could say anything Dee told me “it’s, fine, I’m good.” Harley remained there until dinner was served. After our meal Dee (all by herself) took the initiative and bent down to talk to Harley.

When he looked up at her as if to say, “Hi there nice lady, happy to meet you” she was hooked. She couldn’t get over that one little move…

It’s those incredibly loving eyes Harley has…

I don’t think either one of us knew at that moment – with the help of a four legged furrend, Dee was working through her “dog issue” all by herself. Harley was teaching her not to be afraid of him…

No fear – you go girl

Next thing I knew (and I believe a total surprise to her), Dee did the unexpected, she started to pet Harley…

Harley doing that voodoo that he do so well…

Shortly after that, there really wasn’t any reason for me to even be in the room. Leo must have sensed she was ready because he wandered over and the three of them just had this “Doodle love fest” going on while I cleaned the kitchen (and snuck some photos!)…

“Love is in the air”

Needless to say by the end of the evening, Harley and Dee had become fast furry furrends – laughing, tail wagging buddies…

I just love these photos

We had a Doodletastic visit! Dee even called the next day. She said she couldnt’ stop thinking about how much fun she had and that she was coming back soon. She kept telling me: “I want some more play time with Harley & Leo” So I told her anytime, she was always welcome here in“Doodleville.”

We’ll leave the porch light on for her…

Harley & Leo are the BEST!

Thanks for reading. Have you ever helped convert someone with a fear of dogs? Have you had a similar experience? Do tell…

[Cathy C. Bennett]

Thank you Ginny Noightingale

[Cathy C. Bennett]

Hi Richard - Cocoa is beautiful... Great story but you left me hanging (smile) - what do you think Cocoa would have done had she reached the gardener? Inquiring minds (mine) want to know. Have they become friends since? Loved the story, I want more!!!

 

[Cathy C. Bennett]

Hey Lukas - Thank you, so happy you enjoyed it.

[Richard Crowe]

Cocoa, a recent foster Labradoodle became super protective of our home very quickly.

All our dogs hate he gardener because of his leaf blower but, Cocoa hated him worst that the others.

This was the perfect storm that came together that day...

Cocoa was a different looking doodle because we had to shave her down because of mats in her coat...

Our gardener is petrified of any dogs.  Even our little Maltese scare him.

I thought that the gardener was through and had left my yard, so I let Cocoa out..

He hadn't left and Cocoa starter barking and running straight toward him.

I didn't know what to do so I just yelled "Cocoa" at the top of my lungs.

She stopped on a dime and came running back to me.  I was relieved and surprised because Cocoa had only been with us for about a week.

I smiled a our gardener and said, "No problem, she's a well trained dog!

The gardener didn't know that I had been as scared as he had been.

[Ginny Nightingale]

Wonderful story!!

[Robin and Libby Louise]

Love that story and the last 2 photos!  My story is abut my Siberian Husky, Patrick.  One of my mom's dearest friends had a lifelong fear of dogs.  When we had our collie, she would cower in fear if he got anywhere near her.  Anyway, Patrick always kept his distance, like he could sense her discomfort.  Little by little my mom's friend was taken in by his inherent cuteness, and one day I came home and she was actually taking him for a walk!  My mom also used to take Patrick to a phobia clinic to help others get over their dog anxiety.  I was so proud of him!

[Cathy C. Bennett]

You got that right Kristy!

[Kirsty Coates]

Nothin' like some doodle counseling! :)

[Cathy C. Bennett]

WOW! When I decided to write this story, I looked on the internet to find something to explain Harley's behavior. I never did, but what I found has relevance to your story (amazing by the way). The article explained that many children are products of their "parents" reaction. A large dog comes towards them, the parent panics which in turn teaches the child to panic. Not until people like you come along with a large loving affectionate dog that the child sees, becomes curious about, and can then be taught about the beauty of some dogs (regardless of size) temperament and personality. Good for you! You converted her. Thanks for reading.

[AndySharon BoomerShaynaMariner]

Years ago we had an experience with a little girl in our neighborhood and Boomer.  When the little girl was walking home Boomer would always be watching and usually barking at her.  She and her mother told us she was afraid of dogs.  One day while Sharon was outside the little girl got the "courage" to come over to Boomer.   Boomer is our "jumper".  Boomer just sat there and let the girl pet him and of course did the doodle rub against her.  From that time Boomer and this girl have been  buddies.  Boomer never jumps on her and eagerly waited for her to come home from school to play with her.  Around this girl Boomer is extremely gentle and protective of her. They have since moved and now have their own dog.  Our daughter babysits for her and has also fallen in love with their dog.