DON'T KILL THE MESSENGER

[Pam and Ginger Snap]

Hi All,

I have been on this site for a year and a half. I have gotten some great advise and made some nice friends.  I have gotten great grooming tips, food advice, lots of laughs and a few tears.  However, I have noticed recently when people ask questions, there is a tendency to be a little forceful with answers.  A lot of people are asking  questions or looking for solutions for real problems....aggressive dogs, food issues, re-homing issues...and instead of lending a sympathetic ear and helpful advice, there seems to be some quick responses with judging comments.  Often times I feel sorry for the person asking the question, and some of the answers are mean-spirited.  Some are very helpful.

Sometimes people don't see previous posts.  When someone re-posts something, or asks a question, again...the poster is not doing it to be a pain...maybe they just didn't see the original post.

I like this site. I like knowing peoples stories, and their pups.

I hope that this post can make people think twice before they post an answer to a post, where the poster is seeking advice.  The advice might be something that the poster does not like, but it can be stated in a kinder way.

For example, I am really nervous that people are going to react harshly to this post.

[Pat and Traveler]

Whoa now!  Let's not be hasty handing out these Hokum's to Ricki. 

[F, Calla & Luca]

No worries.

[Ricki and Tara (doodle)]

Pat you stay out of this you troublemaker!

[Sherri, Sophie, Winston, & Kitty]

I'm rolling my eyes. I'm sure there was more to it than that though. that was just the lame-o excuse to get the puppy of their hands.

[Karen, Jasper and Jackdoodle]

Could have been kids- teenagers- who got a puppy and the parents won't let them keep it. Who knows. They sell puppies in parking lots and roadside stands in some parts of the country.

 

[F, Calla & Luca]

I suppose there is the most remote possibility that they were just ignorant and not evil.

[Sherri, Sophie, Winston, & Kitty]

nope. definitely evil. F, you're either with us or against us. ;-)

[F, Calla & Luca]

Sorry, at my age I am an independent gal : ) When I first was being devoured by Luca I wondered what I had done. But I read and got some ideas, ending up with a trainer and then DK.

[Sherri, Sophie, Winston, & Kitty]

F, I love how you just sort of swoop in and throw us off balance. We were so content to demonize those people and then you just throw in a line of reason takes the wind out of the sails. I guess proving Pam's point to a certain extent.

[Karen, Jasper and Jackdoodle]

Calling them "ignorant" instead of evil isn't exactly a compliment, either, though. I doubt that being called ignorant would be considered "nice" in a forum response, lol. In fact, I think I'd prefer to be called evil.

 

[F, Calla & Luca]

Not me. There are a few things I don't know : ) After all ignorance is not necessarily indicative of stupidity. I prefer though to think of myself as not being evil.

As an aside, I skipped 8th grade, many of us did back in the day in NYC. So when my kids accuse me of not having read something etc. I tell them it was probably taught in 8th grade. GOK what I missed.

[Karen, Jasper and Jackdoodle]

Evil is so much sexier, though. ;)

(Kidding, I'm kidding.)