RANT UPTDATE*****

[Jane, Rooney & Stuart]

I live in a beautiful home, in a beautiful golf community, surrounded by beautiful people but (that is a different rant).  In the summer 99% of them live up north, Canada or someplace in between but this time of the year they all come back.  Let me begin by saying that I'm a mid-west gal, chubby and of a conservative viewpoint.  So basically I'm saying "that I do not fit in".  But I do my best to be friendly and try.  Last year Rooney and I went to small dog time every day at 3:30 and he got to run and play with all the other small dogs but by the end of summer he was pushing the size limit.  Now with Stuart at 53 lbs we go to big dog time but I am OVER IT.  These men bring their giant Weimaraners, mixed breed dogs (that have that boney head of a pit) and delight when their dogs play very aggressively.  Stuart and Rooney hold their own but neither one has an aggressive bone in their body.   And I can't tell you how proud I am of Stuart who will put himself between another dog and Rooney if he feels that it is getting too rough.  So tonight - as things are going as usual and I'm trying to maintain the peace without drawing notice - one of the men asks me what mix Stuart is and I say " he is a Poodle-Golden-retriever mix and he doesn't have an -------   I WAS going to say an aggressive gene when he jumped into my sentence and said "any brains"!  So basically he said Stuart didn't have any brains being 1/2 poodle/retriever!  I very calmly looked at him and said "poodles and retrievers are some of the smartest breeds".   All of this in front of a group of other men and one woman who looks like a man.   I let the boys play a bit longer and then left.  I hate to punish Rooney & Stuart but I will not take them back.  When dh comes back from China he is either buying me a lot to build on that has room for a fenced dog area or I'm going home to MI and not coming back.  I can't take these smug, skinny, liberal, rude, A$$holes any longer!!!!  Stuart is the sweetest puppy you would ever see and I'm not taking this cr@p any longer.  I would NEVER say anything so rude to another person EVER.  I don't care who you are, think you are or what you have, but I'm not taking it.  I grew up very poor but I was taught kindness, courtesy, and manners.  Dh is gone and I'm crying - why are people so mean?  I just hate these snobs!!!!!!!!!!!! 

[Janice Hammond]

I would figuratively spit in their eye and keep on playing.The jerks need to have it given back to them.I am a Canadian and ot everyone is like those fellows.

[Sandi]

I've been out of town and just discovered this post. I must admit, I'm more than surprised that it has not been deleted, or at least moved to the "not about Doodle" section.
Jane, you seem to have become a leader, representative, and spokes-person for this forum with a large following. I am more than disappointed.
I don't find that these comments help Doodle owners or their dogs.
Political views should be voiced on political forums.

[Ricki and Tara (doodle)]

Sandy, if you didn't read through all of the posts you may have missed Jane's update to her original post. It is on page 5 and may help clear things up a bit. :)

[Sandi]

I've been out of town and just discovered this post. I must admit, I'm more than surprised that it has not been deleted, or at least moved to the "not about Doodle" section.
Jane, you seem to have become a leader, representative, and spokes-person for this forum with a large following. I am more than disappointed.
I don't find that these comments help Doodle owners or their dogs.
Political views should be voiced on political forums.

[Jane, Rooney & Stuart]

Sandi - you may not have seen my post from yesterday (see below) but I will add that I used the word "liberal" - that can be a political term but it is not always a political term.  I never used Democrate or Rebublican in my post and was using that term to describe a mid-set on everyday rules and conduct.  I'm sorry if you saw that as purely political but that was not the intention. 

"After re-reading this in the a.m. I would like to apologize for MY unkind words and any offense that they have caused.  Although the rude person had no idea I was very angry and hurt when I left the dog park, I then came on here to vent and should not have used the infamatory words that I did.  My sole intention in telling the story with those details or side thoughts was because I know that it colors the way that I see everything here.  I was trying to show how no matter what I do here - I end up feeling wrong,left out, judged.  It is a hard way to live everyday.  Something does have to change for my living arrangement but with our place in MI never having been sold I can't just afford to buy a new house right this minute -- would be a nightmare to end up owning 3 houses!  Yikes.  But I think after the holidays this house will have a For Sale sign in the yard and if we can sell it then we'll have to decide what to do from there.  So having that plan in the back of my head gives me hope.  Thanks for all the offers of muscle, momma's wisdom, etc.  Once again my apologies."

[Maryann,Roo and Tigger]

I sooo empathize.  I, too am a midwestern girl. I had a similar experience at, what was at the time, our second home in an Oceanside Golf Club community.  Only the jerks were smug and ultra conservative, but also incredibly rude. 

 

Do you think it is having been hit with too many golf  balls that has knocked the sense out of them or maybe something in air in such an insulated community?  Or maybe they were just born that way?

 

Whatever, I totally understand.  We sold that home soon after as I was just sooo unhappy there.

 

 

[Lorraine Bromley]

I was thinking about you and this situation. Since you had a good relationship at the small dog park could you get permission based on the behavior of your pets to stay in the small dog group, your guys have already proven they play well there. Or go a different time to the big dog park, and bring your own lawn chair! I am sure that the whole gated community is not like this, You haven't met them as they are likely avoiding these big goons too. If you can't connect in the area leave into the surrounding area and join groups of your interest to meet some decent like minded people. When you husband is away why not invite a friend or two to have a mini vacation with you, I know of at least one doodle owner who would love to come to Florida for a play date! (Neely suggested it) Or some of your old Michigan connections. There are always comebacks we think if after the fact, but no use as these people aren't worth thinking about another minute. I do love the well bless your heart comments though. I watch the view and love how Joy talks about those skinny Bitches! You know you've got her support eh?! LOL